The Quest Chronicles: V-Day Love


Happy Pre-Valentines day! Let’s have Sex, I mean HOT steamy kinky SEX! First let’s get the lingerie, chocolates, roses & champagne! It’s on & popping now!

Now that I have your attention, let’s really talk. Valentine’s Day is just like every other man made holiday that stemmed from a deranged start but it is what it is. Most down play it for many reasons; they’re either broke, lazy or don’t have a valentine because they’re single which to me is foolish. You eat MORE on Thanksgiving, open MORE gifts on Christmas, drink MORE on New Years so let’s show MORE love on Valentines Day! Yes, love should be showned all year long just like we should be giving thanks all day but these holidays are not new to us so let’s just have some fun!

For couples, you have the group “been there, done that” uummmm about them lol Then you have the ones who actually put in the effort to spice it up every year. Who doesn’t want to see that extra glow on there loved one’s face just like when it’s their birthday & it doesn’t have to be expensive neither. If working on a tight budget, there’s so many things you can do. It’s all about being creative & taking time to make it happen. Just like every other holiday, you have a year to plan.

If you’re in a relationship then your partner should already be aware of what you can do or not do financially. It’s more about the appreciation & thinking outside the box. Roses, bears & chocolates are cool but not excited about seeing every year, let’s just be real about it.

Also, the holiday was created to market their target audience which are women but guys need & deserved to be treated special as well. Let’s not be in a relationship where we’re supposed to be equal then slack in certain situations. Know what he likes besides SEX & put a smile on his face. Hell, send him chocolates to his job, buy him something he likes & when it comes to the bed room, make it more adventurous. Do like a Sex scavenger hunt or something. I can’t give too many suggestions because you know your partner, not me!

As for the singles, LOVE is universal so just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t have a Valentine. If could be a friend, co worker, the elderly lady/man down the hall or even your children. It’s all about showing love & appreciation or remix it to fit your personal life & enjoy.

Many of you have crushes so you ever thought to send something? Some guys told me that they would have loved for me to be their valentine but I’m probably someone’s Valentine already & have plans. Another comical response, “If only you lived closer” nonsense.

This goes back to insecurities & worrying about the next man. Last I checked I was single with no plans as usual because everyone assumes that I’ll be booed up.  You lost your chance assuming & you know what they say, right? Yes, fear of rejection lingers in the air but how old are you? Are we too scared to just ask “will you be my valentine?” Or even easier ” What are your plans for V-Day?” In that QUESTion alone you would have recieved your answer.

Last I checked we live in the world of technology so someone not being close is a cop out. You can video chat, send gifts through mail or if you don’t have someone’s physical address you can send gifts via internet & all you need is their email address. Within minutes you could send that someone special a pre paid groupon to a spa or a e-card to their special coffee place. It goes back to just being creative. Less assuming & more taking ACTION!

Ladies, you can ask a guy to be your valentine too you know. I’m so over this one sided mentality! That guy you been eyeing will be so thrown off & who knows what may come out of it. Even if something doesn’t, do it anyways!

Matter a fact, you can be your own & spoil yourself too. Go to the spa, run a bubble bath, pop some champagne, enjoy your favorite movie while indulging in your favorite foods. Create your own happiness.

I know a lot of this is redundant and said all the time but believe it or not many still don’t get it & need a reminder. Its your life. Live it how you want to live it but don’t forget to LIVE it! Love is Love & I LOVE YOU!

Please share some of your favorites V-Day stories from the good, the bad to the most EMBARRASSING! I’m here to read them all! 😊

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The Quest Chronicles: I Myself Survived R Kelly


Flash back of a time when I was a teenager, my mom brought my sisters & I to a R Kelly Concert. At the end of the concert, we were asked to get on his tour bus. Now this sounds VERY Familiar!

I’m not the type to speak on subjects that are being saturated on social media but when a particular subject triggers something within me then it has to be addressed. That subject was the R. Kelly Special on Lifetime. I watched it & was like wow but not too shocked, we all knew about this for years. I just wasnt aware of the dept of it all. When I spoke to my sister the next day, she reminded me of the time we went to a R Kelly concert for her birthday years ago. We were teenagers but I was excited to go because Deborah Cox was apart of it & I was a fan. My sister started to give her opinion about the special & brought up how his camp asked if we wanted to get on R. Kelly’s tour bus that night. My sisters thought it was weird for them to ask, especially since we were so young and mommy wasn’t having that whatsoever!

Other women would have probably allowed it just to be that close to a celebrity. Now that I’m older, watching this & reminiscing had my mind wondering. What would have happened if I went to the concert alone, or not with my family? What would have happened if I would have went with friends?

Me being an inspiring music artist, if I was to be asked to go on his tour bus, I honestly would have. My life would have been totally different. Being young searching for fame, I could have been a victim myself. I think about how I wanted to be a superstar! I would have went on the bus, praying that he hears me sing & hope that he can help me with my career. I’ll be very honest with you all, back then I was young, quiet, and nieve. I could have easily been a victim, a sex slave & trapped. I would have been too scared to fight back not knowing what the outcome would be. Not knowing if I’ll get beaten like the others, raped, tied up or the lives of my family members be threatened! Very scary but reality. You never know what you would or would not do in certain situations unless you’re actually in them.

As a music artist, I’ve never tried to sleep my way to the top but in the beginning I did put my life in danger. Meeting up with Djs, promoters, producers that I didn’t know, trying to network & every situation wasn’t just a meeting. Some were set ups that I wasnt aware of. I remember meeting industry guys trying to have “alone” time with me, talking about, “Do you know who I am? Don’t you know I can change your career & take it to the level you want? Lets leave the club, go around the corner & get to know each other.” That night became more interesting & crazy but you’ll have to read my up & coming book for the rest of that particular story amongst the others.

I have a lot of shocking traumatizing painful stories dealing with guys in the industry. It hurts because many females, just want to follow their dreams & shouldn’t have to go through hell to get there & wonder why so many of us have a wall up & trust issues. Kings are supposed to protect their Queens & I haven’t felt protected. This is a twisted industry as well as a twisted world we live in. 
Where do we go from here? When will this stop? Is change coming? Will certain individuals finally be punished for their actions. Will we protect the innocent & help heal the wounds? PLEASE comment below!

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

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