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The Quest Chronicles: The Wingman

A Wingman: a guy you bring along with you on singles outings (like to bars) that helps you out with the women. Now if you’re out & the female is engaging instantly, how long do you still allow the wingman to speak for you?

I remember I was out to lunch & this guy kept starring at me so I smiled back to be polite. In my mind I felt that since I gave the hint to approach me, he would. So many men are becoming predictable, I pretty much knew how this was going to turn out. Me being me, I was curious so I entertained myself with the next approach.
After this man kept looking at me, I got up and acted as if I was leaving. This indicating that he possibly lost his chance at getting my number or even knowing who I am. He hissed at me, I turned & said, “only snakes hiss, that’s no way to get a lady’s attention”. That’s when they laughed & of course the wingman was the first to speak to me. It was awkward because clearly the other guy wanted to talk to me but as soon as I was in his face, he barely had much to say. It almost came to a point where I was tempted to give the wing man my number since technically he’s the one i’m conversing with. Let’s be clear, I could have but I didn’t. It would be hurtful & the wingman would have just given my number to his friend because he was pressing for me to give my number to him already.
I actually had to ask if he could talk because i’m trying to figure out why the wrong one is still conversing with me and speaking for someone who can clearly speak for themselves.  How this story ends, well I eventually gave him my number, we been secretly dating for 2 years and expecting a child… just kidding but let’s continue with the topic at hand because now I have QUESTions.
 
How old are we? Why are we still playing these games? Yes, some may be intimated to speak to someone they find attractive or fascinating but once you get the GO… why are you still acting as if the light is red or yellow proceeding with caution? In some cases, the wingman actually ends up with the girl because women like men with confidence who can speak for themselves. Playing games like this is not always going to work in your favor. Are you OK with these risks?
What many fail to realize is, acting like this can actually be a turn off especially being of age. These men were clearing in their 40’s or early 50’s, I expected more from them but I ended up disappointed as usual. Will the madness ever end? Dating is so difficult…SMH!
 
My life, my stories, your entertainment so you know what’s coming up next. That’s right, leave your comments below & let me know how you feel about the wingman, have you been one or used one? Better yet for the ladies, have you ever been in a  situation where the wingman approached you and please let me know the outcome because I’ve very curious. 
 

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by commenting, sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

Email me topics to discuss & QUESTions you may have. To learn more about me or to hear about certain topics in dept please download my app “T-Quest” in your google play store & visit my website GottaLoveMeWorld.com

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The Quest Chronicles: Value My Time

You ever had a date scheduled? Cleared the calendar, got all dressed up, prepared something special and then they don’t even call to say they’re going to be late?!  How about the ones who say they’re going to be late & eventually don’t even bother showing up? Their response… “my bad” as if it didn’t required anything more. Yes, things come up but did you consider my feelings & my time?

People are too nonchalant about the wrong things as if it’s no big deal. How about the ones who take hours to plan something special, get a babysitter, take time off of work or reschedule plans to make sure they spend time with YOU & you pull some crazy stunt like this? Now, if you flip, they look at you as if you’re tripping. I don’t understand people and this happens quite often.

Me being an entrepreneur, let’s take it from a business aspect. If we are suppose to get up for a meeting or a session, do you think it’s okay to be late without notifying the other person? Someone else could have had your spot. You’re wasting my time and money that could have been made. Pulling a “no call no show is unprofessional as well. This ain’t cute nor funny, it’s pretty much disrespectful. The sad part is, when it’s on the other foot, people start to feel some type of way when it’s happening to them! Now if you were an employee and you got fired, I bet in that moment you’re going to feel some type of way because of the consequences.

I’m not even going to get started on the ones you believe in “CP” Time which means CRAZY PEOPLE time to me. Some of my friends and followers had to learn the hard way when coming to a few of my events because I start everything ON TIME and they end up missing most of the shows being LATE! This is one of the reasons why I get booked often because people understand I respect time and they never have to wait on me.

You can’t turn back the hands of time. Life has so many factors and anything can happen but some people needs to really think about others for once. This is an issue that’s been going on for decades and probably won’t change but I will continue to lead by example & hope others jump on the bandwagon. It scares me because the people I know who is usually late for many events as well as their job honestly don’t see nothing wrong with it.

This topic can go in different directions depending on your own personal experiences so i’m going to stop here and allow you to chime in below in the comment section. Let me know of your own personal experiences of people not valuing or respecting your time. I know there’s some interesting stories so don’t hold back!

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by commenting, sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

Email me topics to discuss & QUESTions you may have. To learn more about me or to hear about certain topics in dept please download my app “T-Quest” in your google play store & visit my website GottaLoveMeWorld.com

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