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The Quest Chronicles: The Wingman

A Wingman: a guy you bring along with you on singles outings (like to bars) that helps you out with the women. Now if you’re out & the female is engaging instantly, how long do you still allow the wingman to speak for you?

I remember I was out to lunch & this guy kept starring at me so I smiled back to be polite. In my mind I felt that since I gave the hint to approach me, he would. So many men are becoming predictable, I pretty much knew how this was going to turn out. Me being me, I was curious so I entertained myself with the next approach.
After this man kept looking at me, I got up and acted as if I was leaving. This indicating that he possibly lost his chance at getting my number or even knowing who I am. He hissed at me, I turned & said, “only snakes hiss, that’s no way to get a lady’s attention”. That’s when they laughed & of course the wingman was the first to speak to me. It was awkward because clearly the other guy wanted to talk to me but as soon as I was in his face, he barely had much to say. It almost came to a point where I was tempted to give the wing man my number since technically he’s the one i’m conversing with. Let’s be clear, I could have but I didn’t. It would be hurtful & the wingman would have just given my number to his friend because he was pressing for me to give my number to him already.
I actually had to ask if he could talk because i’m trying to figure out why the wrong one is still conversing with me and speaking for someone who can clearly speak for themselves.  How this story ends, well I eventually gave him my number, we been secretly dating for 2 years and expecting a child… just kidding but let’s continue with the topic at hand because now I have QUESTions.
 
How old are we? Why are we still playing these games? Yes, some may be intimated to speak to someone they find attractive or fascinating but once you get the GO… why are you still acting as if the light is red or yellow proceeding with caution? In some cases, the wingman actually ends up with the girl because women like men with confidence who can speak for themselves. Playing games like this is not always going to work in your favor. Are you OK with these risks?
What many fail to realize is, acting like this can actually be a turn off especially being of age. These men were clearing in their 40’s or early 50’s, I expected more from them but I ended up disappointed as usual. Will the madness ever end? Dating is so difficult…SMH!
 
My life, my stories, your entertainment so you know what’s coming up next. That’s right, leave your comments below & let me know how you feel about the wingman, have you been one or used one? Better yet for the ladies, have you ever been in a  situation where the wingman approached you and please let me know the outcome because I’ve very curious. 
 

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The Quest Chronicles: Southern Disaster

The southern gentleman. A women’s dream. Well mannered, hospitable, with that cute accent, SOLD! Well, I thought I was, but based off what I recently experienced, let’s just say TIME HAS CHANGED!

I recently moved to the south from my home state Connecticut. As I began to adjust, it’s been all work no play so I decided to live a little. Let’s see what these southern men are all about & they came flooded! I’m a workaholic so I’m use to being around my music colleagues. This is my first time being around normal men on the regular.
I noticed a pattern with each man that approached me. They were either already in a relationship, a male thot or married. For a moment I questioned myself. Am I coming off as a certain type of female? If so, I need to reevaluate my life! Then with the quickness, I said I need to stop tripping. I’m not doing anything wrong. I’m out here minding my business, dressed appropriate, well manned, soft spoken with a beautiful smile. I’m not giving off that “bust down thotiana” vibes so it must be them.
Many of them hasn’t even made it passed a conversation let alone a date.
1st Guy: I have a “friend” but it’s not serious because we’re not married.
Uummmm does she know she’s just a friend?
2nd Guy: Your voice gives me a hard on & make me wanna do some things. I’m about to hop in the shower to cool off, you want to video chat & watch?
Uummmmm I don’t know you like that.
3rd Guy: I’m in town on business, I have an ole lady at home. I just want a female to kick it with while I’m here.
Uummmmm am I an escort?
4th Guy: Why you playing with me? When you gonna let me get that kitty kat. You can’t be stingy.
Uummmmm, leave my vagina out of this!
5th Guy: I got money, I want to take care of you. I’m married but I still want to have fun. You like married men right?
Uummmm wait…WHAT??!!!!
There were a few more but you get my drift. Now by no means am I saying all men are like this. You know my blog is my personal experiences & everything from MY perspective. All I’m saying is, this is not a great start to trying to get to know new people.
I honestly want to just get back in my work bubble & call it day like I was doing before because this is too much! I have much more to say but I’ll keep that for my up & coming book so stay tuned.
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The Quest Chronicles: The Great Collaboration

A chance encounter leads to a great collaboration. The greatest story ever written is life itself. I became friends with someone who put a small piece of my love life on paper with ONE conversation. A taste of what’s in stored once my book is complete:

“I’m feeling that feeling again; I’m
playing a game I can’t win”
-Steve
Perry

The deafening sound of my silence
overpowers the sound of the water as it
washes over me. How did I find myself-
better still; how did I allow this to happen
again? I close my eyes, and I can still see
his smile. That captivating, inviting yet oh
so deceptive smile. His touch, his voice, his
scent. His…everything! God what I wouldn’t
give to be able to forget that he ever
existed.

I was him simplicity, he was my
complication.
What I saw in him was an escape. My
escape! He was also the lie I convinced
myself to be truth. He was…he was my
dark fantasy.
No matter how hard I cry. No matter how
hard I fight. No matter how much I tell
myself that I have to let him go; I somehow
always find myself in his arms. In his
embrace. In his bed. Trapped in my own
mind, the perfect hostage to my desires. I
convinced myself that my love for him was
strong enough to change the truth of who
he really was. But my love was nothing
more than a lie. A lie I kept using to put the
pieces of my broken heart back together. A
lie I held on to. A lie that never shielded me
from the harsh reality of us. There was
never us. There was him. There was me.
And now, once again; it’s just me.

It’s just me. Screaming for the world to
hear. Crying until my body shakes. Holding
myself simply because I want him to hold
me; I want him to kiss me, to tell me that
things will be different. I want him to lie to
me, if only to stop me from feeling the pain
that the truth causes.
The deafening silence of my tears
overpowers the sound of the shower as the
water cascades over my naked body.
Hoping that it washes away his touch.
Hoping that it washes away his scent.
Praying that it washes away my past. All I
can do now is wait.
Wait to live.
Wait to die.
Wait for an absolution; that will never come.
The simplicity that I found in his
complication. Is what made our complicated
love affair, so simple.

So simple in fact that he simply walked out
of my life.

Written by my new inspiration, Darryl Bishop #Author #Photographer #Dj #Comedian #Model

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The Quest Chronicles: Break up to Make up

Angry make up sex, so much aggression & sweat dripping everywhere! Harder thrusts, more pressure when throwing it back & more! Yes, this is the perfect time to take all your frustration out on me.

I love you Jody! Imma cook,  Imma clean, I’m gonna go make them tacos! We all remember that epic sex scene from the movie Babyboy. Sometimes it’s best to break up to have a fun make up session but is it worth it? Do you have to take it to that degree? Are we antagonizing each other on purpose or do some of us do it just for the perks that we know is coming after? Why can’t we just have angry sex to begin with?

I’ve witness people purposely getting upsetting their partner because they know what’s going to happen later, which in certain cases is make up sex. We’ve all heard that it’s more intense & feels much better that the average. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that you would start a fight or argument but for “angry sex” later… like WHY?

I’ve even known females who have plotted on their men, get upset, make him feel bad because they know that he’s going to doing something special, give them money or buy a present to get back on their good side. How old are we to be playing these games, playing with people & their emotions?

Let’s put a twist on this. What happens if your plan doesn’t work and next thing you know, there is no making out and they leave for good? Break up but no make up, who fault would it be? What real adult is around for these silly games? I personally don’t have time for the childish nonsense.

If you want to have rough angry sex, we can just have it without the pregame because many of the pre games arguments be messing with emotions and that’s unacceptable. It’s just something to think about. To each its own but I’m just stating my personal opinions as usual but  you know what to do below so leave those comments and share some of your personal experiences.

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The Quest Chronicles: Miss Me….NOT??

I MISS YOU! Message pop up in my DM. Sometimes you smile and then other times you cut the crap and reply, “Why?” or better yet, “What do you miss about me? They be like, ” You in general, your smile, your energy”… blah blah blah. Of course everything depends on who actually wrote it but at the same time, I personally don’t always accept it. Not trying to read too deep into the 3 words (I MISS YOU) but sometimes you have to challenge others. We’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using.

I remember a friend in which I haven’t seen in a long time called me. You know he hit me with the “hey, stranger” & me being ME responded with ” You know my name so use it!” He laughed & said, “I MISS YOU! You can always make me laugh with your silly self.” I can always count on you to make me smile. In this case, it’s acceptable because me making him smile brought back happy memories that we both shared.

Sliding in the DM’s  are a different story. I be ready to shut it down asap. Depending on the words that they use. They really be trying to convince you that they REALLY miss you knowing that they don’t. Let’s be clear, you have NOT been thinking about me whatsoever. The ONLY reason you even contacted me was because of recent pictures I’ve posted on my wall or in my stories that got me looking “hella goood” and now you want to slide on in…. my DM! LOL You didn’t miss me nor miss me… you just saw me and NOW all of sudden thinking of  how I’m doing and trying to see what’s up. Not falling for it mister! LOL

My favorite are the ones looking for the same answer in response. When reunited with certain people that be like, “I really miss you.” I be like, “aaawwww really, you know my number never changes, you could hit me up anytime.” Then they be like, do you miss me? Once again me being me be like “NOPE”. Now the world has come to an end because I didn’t respond the way they had hoped. Technically what I said wasn’t bad, it was just the truth. I’m the type of person who means  what I say and say what I mean. I don’t MISS YOU but it is definitely refreshing seeing you and talking to you again. You haven’t been on my mind. We’re adults with so much going on that thinking of everyone you know it not realistic but if we run into each other of course, i’m going to smile and will be happy to catch up. That’s a given if we have good vibes.

I only truly miss my family when we don’t see each other often and that’s only the ones i’m close to and my best friends. Other than that, the rest of the people…NOPE but just know that it’s “good to see you again” We all remember that saying!LOL!

I say all this to say, say what you mean, mean what you say. Think about the words you put out there and make sure you can back them up especially when talking to someone who may challenge you. Don’t be offended, just try to understand. Like I stated earlier, we’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using. I’m just here stating the REAL & bringing awareness! 😀

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The Quest Chronicles: Value My Time

You ever had a date scheduled? Cleared the calendar, got all dressed up, prepared something special and then they don’t even call to say they’re going to be late?!  How about the ones who say they’re going to be late & eventually don’t even bother showing up? Their response… “my bad” as if it didn’t required anything more. Yes, things come up but did you consider my feelings & my time?

People are too nonchalant about the wrong things as if it’s no big deal. How about the ones who take hours to plan something special, get a babysitter, take time off of work or reschedule plans to make sure they spend time with YOU & you pull some crazy stunt like this? Now, if you flip, they look at you as if you’re tripping. I don’t understand people and this happens quite often.

Me being an entrepreneur, let’s take it from a business aspect. If we are suppose to get up for a meeting or a session, do you think it’s okay to be late without notifying the other person? Someone else could have had your spot. You’re wasting my time and money that could have been made. Pulling a “no call no show is unprofessional as well. This ain’t cute nor funny, it’s pretty much disrespectful. The sad part is, when it’s on the other foot, people start to feel some type of way when it’s happening to them! Now if you were an employee and you got fired, I bet in that moment you’re going to feel some type of way because of the consequences.

I’m not even going to get started on the ones you believe in “CP” Time which means CRAZY PEOPLE time to me. Some of my friends and followers had to learn the hard way when coming to a few of my events because I start everything ON TIME and they end up missing most of the shows being LATE! This is one of the reasons why I get booked often because people understand I respect time and they never have to wait on me.

You can’t turn back the hands of time. Life has so many factors and anything can happen but some people needs to really think about others for once. This is an issue that’s been going on for decades and probably won’t change but I will continue to lead by example & hope others jump on the bandwagon. It scares me because the people I know who is usually late for many events as well as their job honestly don’t see nothing wrong with it.

This topic can go in different directions depending on your own personal experiences so i’m going to stop here and allow you to chime in below in the comment section. Let me know of your own personal experiences of people not valuing or respecting your time. I know there’s some interesting stories so don’t hold back!

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The Quest Chronicles: The Bigger Person

Many people in relationships get nervous in the middle of an argument when the other person all of a sudden becomes calm. They’ll sigh & say “You’re right” or “OK”. Some would just let you win to stop arguing whether they agree or not because fighting is draining. Does this solve the problem, no but for some people they feel it’s the only answer for the moment.

I’m not a confrontational person. I don’t fight nor argue. If I feel a situation is getting intense then I find a way to ease out of it the best way I can. That’s when I automatically become the BIGGER PERSON.

Don’t get me wrong, I am semi human so part of me would rather not be lady like nor professional & let some people HAVE IT! But, we all know the saying, “never allow people to take you out of your character” So I continue to be the bigger person and resolve the issues in a better way.

We’re already in a huge fight call LIFE so the last people I would want to fight with is my love, family, friends or co workers. If more people would fully LISTEN, COMMUNICATE properly & allow someone to have their own OPINION ,things could be a lot better! These small gestures can have such a big positive affect. Easier said than done yet it shouldn’t be hard to do.

I often question if people actually like to have confrontations? Do they like to argue & fight? Do they enjoy putting each other down?

Based off my lifestyle & how I was bought up, taking the high road is the way to go but still have to balance it. I learned that it’s ok to speak your mind even in an intense situation because it’s not healthy to always put your feelings to the side to spare the other person’s. Self love comes first. Not encouraging a brawl but have enough self assurance to let it be known how you feel about something in the best yet respectful way.

I’ll admit I don’t always want to be the bigger person but there are BIGGER things in life I would rather put my energy towards 😏

On that note, you know what to do down below!

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The Quest Chronicles: A Man’s Wedding Ring

Men been flocking to me like crazy, giving compliments, flirting & asking for my number. As soon as I attempt to give it to them, I notice the special band on their left hand called a WEDDING RING!

In these scenarios, one has to think. Is he innocently flirting, just being polite or really trying to see what’s good with US?

Sometimes I just laugh & brush it off. I appreciate the compliments, embrace the attention & put it in my head that this man was just being polite. Nothing more, nothing less. Refreshing to have a man put smile on my face, even if it’s just innocent flirting.

When approached by a man that’s coming on strong, & asking for my number, it makes me wonder. Maybe he’s unhappy in his marriage, he may be a widow, separated or divorced. Here’s comes that part many miss… COMMUNCATION! Before we go any further & it’s obvious you want to pursue me, I need to know the story behind the ring on the left hand because I know it’s not just an accessory.

Sometimes I sit back & question myself. Why would these men approach me? If there are in fact married, do I give off the impression that I’m down with a little fun & your personal situation is your own business? Does he feel being tight lip about the wedding band is ok because obviously I see it so if it’s a problem to me, I should be the one to address it?

We live in a society that having a mistress, side piece or special friend is normal in SOME cases. So I’m not offended but definitely not my style. I’m not messing up anyone’s happy home or even if they are unhappy, not my problem. I’m going to be with one man & he will be all mines. In this case, sharing is NOT Caring.

So I ask the men, are you happy in your marriage? Are you the type to seek new options to eventually push the other out the way? Do you enjoy the attention of other woman even for an innocent moment? If widowed, separated or divorced, what makes you still wear the wedding man?

Ladies, how do you feel when being approached by a married man? Is the ring flattering, a turn on or turn off? Do you address it early or play along to see how far they will go? Just curious so don’t be shy to comment your answers or even share some scenarios you personally experienced.

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The Quest Chronicles: Compatible Sex Drive

What’s your sex number? Are you down with “BDSM” bondage, discipline, dominance and submission? Is your sex drive the same as your partner? Do you advance to meet theirs needs or find a common medium?

For some odd reason, having sex talk makes people uncomfortable. I feel if we’re going to be intimate together the line of communication should already be open. How OPEN are you with your mate? If you were unsatisfied, would you let it be known? Would you come out of your comfort zone to please them? How open are you to trying and experiencing new things?

Sex shouldn’t be the main connection in a relationship but must admit it does play a major part just like finances. It is considered a deal breaker because it’s such a priority to many.

Depending on our sexual experiences, we all have a different love for it and drive. When meeting a mate who’s either more experienced than you or less… what do you do?

I asked a guy once before was he into choking and he said “that’s just sick and crazy” He couldn’t date a girl who was into that because God knows what else she’s into. His response was very interesting because you have other guys who love it, just like some like to eat the booty like groceries.

When having sex for the first time with your boo, are you curious, turned off, weirded out or turned on if they want you to try or experience new tricks, adding toys  & positions such as anal, brute, pretzel or helicopter?

If not comfortable, will you speak up? If your partner is not a big freak like you, will you eventually break up?

I know this week’s blog is mainly questions but I want you to really think about what I’m writing about. I know my regular readers are waiting for my personal opinion, stories, what I like or into but you’ll have to read that in my book releasing this year! Yes I know I’m teasing but it’ll be worth this!

One last QUESTion, if you’re not satisfied sexually, have you or did you ever think about cheating? Time to chime in below & don’t hold back. We’re all adults.

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The Quest Chronicles: V-Day Love

Happy Pre-Valentines day! Let’s have Sex, I mean HOT steamy kinky SEX! First let’s get the lingerie, chocolates, roses & champagne! It’s on & popping now!

Now that I have your attention, let’s really talk. Valentine’s Day is just like every other man made holiday that stemmed from a deranged start but it is what it is. Most down play it for many reasons; they’re either broke, lazy or don’t have a valentine because they’re single which to me is foolish. You eat MORE on Thanksgiving, open MORE gifts on Christmas, drink MORE on New Years so let’s show MORE love on Valentines Day! Yes, love should be showned all year long just like we should be giving thanks all day but these holidays are not new to us so let’s just have some fun!

For couples, you have the group “been there, done that” uummmm about them lol Then you have the ones who actually put in the effort to spice it up every year. Who doesn’t want to see that extra glow on there loved one’s face just like when it’s their birthday & it doesn’t have to be expensive neither. If working on a tight budget, there’s so many things you can do. It’s all about being creative & taking time to make it happen. Just like every other holiday, you have a year to plan.

If you’re in a relationship then your partner should already be aware of what you can do or not do financially. It’s more about the appreciation & thinking outside the box. Roses, bears & chocolates are cool but not excited about seeing every year, let’s just be real about it.

Also, the holiday was created to market their target audience which are women but guys need & deserved to be treated special as well. Let’s not be in a relationship where we’re supposed to be equal then slack in certain situations. Know what he likes besides SEX & put a smile on his face. Hell, send him chocolates to his job, buy him something he likes & when it comes to the bed room, make it more adventurous. Do like a Sex scavenger hunt or something. I can’t give too many suggestions because you know your partner, not me!

As for the singles, LOVE is universal so just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t have a Valentine. If could be a friend, co worker, the elderly lady/man down the hall or even your children. It’s all about showing love & appreciation or remix it to fit your personal life & enjoy.

Many of you have crushes so you ever thought to send something? Some guys told me that they would have loved for me to be their valentine but I’m probably someone’s Valentine already & have plans. Another comical response, “If only you lived closer” nonsense.

This goes back to insecurities & worrying about the next man. Last I checked I was single with no plans as usual because everyone assumes that I’ll be booed up.  You lost your chance assuming & you know what they say, right? Yes, fear of rejection lingers in the air but how old are you? Are we too scared to just ask “will you be my valentine?” Or even easier ” What are your plans for V-Day?” In that QUESTion alone you would have recieved your answer.

Last I checked we live in the world of technology so someone not being close is a cop out. You can video chat, send gifts through mail or if you don’t have someone’s physical address you can send gifts via internet & all you need is their email address. Within minutes you could send that someone special a pre paid groupon to a spa or a e-card to their special coffee place. It goes back to just being creative. Less assuming & more taking ACTION!

Ladies, you can ask a guy to be your valentine too you know. I’m so over this one sided mentality! That guy you been eyeing will be so thrown off & who knows what may come out of it. Even if something doesn’t, do it anyways!

Matter a fact, you can be your own & spoil yourself too. Go to the spa, run a bubble bath, pop some champagne, enjoy your favorite movie while indulging in your favorite foods. Create your own happiness.

I know a lot of this is redundant and said all the time but believe it or not many still don’t get it & need a reminder. Its your life. Live it how you want to live it but don’t forget to LIVE it! Love is Love & I LOVE YOU!

Please share some of your favorites V-Day stories from the good, the bad to the most EMBARRASSING! I’m here to read them all! 😊

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