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The Quest Chronicles: Are You Ok?

As an entertainer it is my job to entertain you but as a human being, it is my job to love you. I enjoy putting a smile on your face but how’s your heart? If baffles me the way people treat others as if they don’t know the feeling of being sad, upset or experienced losing a loved one. Take yourself back to a moment when you wanted to cry, scream & wish you had a shoulder to cry on. What we experience, 9 out of 10 someone has or is at this very moment.

Life can get over whelming at times & can get to the best of us. That statement, “check on your strong friends” is REAL! We go through just as much or even more than you can imagine. Just because we chose not to show it to the world, doesn’t mean we’re ok all the time.

Lately, I’ve contacted more people who been GOING THROUGH & it would be the individuals people usually turn to, uplift them & help them out.

Look, I know we all go through things & don’t always have time to check on EVERYONE & genuinely care to know they’re ok but we can do a little more. Be POLITE, KIND & RESPECTFUL. Give more compliments, smiles & hugs. In that moment, you could have saved someone’s life. I love you all!

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TQUEST: The Quest Chronicles: Hungry, My Love? @TQuestGLM

Dinner time, in the kitchen rocking nothing but an apron that reads “How Do I Taste?” while wearing high heels waiting for him to come home. “Baby, dinner is served. Care for some wine? It’s just the way you like it, sweet like me.” Now doesn’t that sound delectable?!

Many may say, I would love for my lady to do that for me. Why can’t she? Why wouldn’t she want to? What woman wouldn’t want to cater to her man? Is she over worked or unhappy? Sounds like some readjusting needs to be made. I’m the type of women who is down to do anything that makes her man happy. If he’s happy, I’m happy & vice versa.

We can get in the kitchen and chef up something together. Come up behind me, body pressed on my body, puts his hands on my hands as I stir. “Here baby, come taste my sauce.” Now that can be taken many ways and I’m here for all of it! You can even have a little fun with it. You know how people are always arguing who is the better cook, you can’t make it like my momma, blah blah blah. Well, have a cook off, and winner gets a kinky surprise or something relaxing like a massage with an happy ending of course. Always have to keep the relationship fun and spicy.

Now if one doesn’t know how to cook, it’s ok. Try taking a cooking course together. It’ll be a fun date night & something different. You can even be a little clever with take out. Its not about KNOWING how to cook all the time because at the end of the day, everyone just wants to be fed a delicious meal. Homemade is just a bonus that can be remixed at times.

At the end of the day, it’s about making sure each other is good, fed, satisfy and happy. A little effect can go a long way. So, with that being said, Bon Appetit! You know what to do next, leave some comments. Tell me some of your fun Kitchen stories between you and your love or even a story where you attempted to do something special and it went wrong. Mistakes happens and its OK to laugh at it later. Just hoping no house was burned down because this can get awkward! lol

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TQUEST: The Quest Chronicles: Foreplay, you ready? @TQuestGLM

Gotta love some erotic stimulation before getting it poppin! From the sexually look I give you while undressing you with my eyes to props like ice, cough drops and whip cream. Pre-gaming, or should I say Foreplay is just as important as the act of sex itself. Foreplay often doesn’t get enough credit. This neglected step in your sexual escapades can be the key to an even more explosive main course.

It’s smart to stretch before you dance, practice before a good game & start your morning right with a balanced breakfast. The ending is sweeter with a proper beginning.

It’s evident that sex is important to many people. Some can’t live without it. Sad but reality. In other cases, sex is non exiting or so generic that partners are just doing it yet not enjoying it anymore. What happened to the spark? Maybe it’s time to switch it up, go back to the basic, better yet, let’s have a better start. Here’s some Foreplay tips to help spice it up a little or just some tips you may want to try because it sounds interesting.

*In order for this to be done properly, you have to be INTO the person you with. Don’t worry about time, just get lost in the moment & lost into your partner. Make it about them & watch what happens.
*PDA: Sounds cheesy but it’s a turn on. Not just kissing but a grip/slap on the booty, or a over pants rub of his penis to the simple whisper ” You look good in that dress, I can wait to devour you later!”
*Massages & Oils are cliche but spice it up by using edible oils. Nothing like massaging and sucking the oil off her breast or his penis & the most important massage, the BOOTY rub… Gets me every time!
*Simple communication can go along way, even have face to face phone sex. Don’t be shy, speak up.

I can give tips forever but I will not. The importance of this post is to re fall about in love with the one you’re with. Keep the sex life alive. Have some fun, be spontaneous & most important cater to your partner. This goes to both men & woman. If you both make each a priority, you can’t go wrong. Take your time, don’t be in a rush to get a nut. Foreplay is just as stimulating if done right.

Now, don’t be shy… I want you to share some of your foreplay tips. We’re all adults. You may even help someone else so get the writing.

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T QUEST: The Quest Chronicles: I’m Your GirlFRIEND!!! @TQuestGLM

I honestly feel I spoil my friends too much. It’s too the point my guy friends as well as my female friends be making it feel like we’re in a relationship because of the way I treat them. It was comical at first but once they got too comfortable it became too much, that’s where I have to draw the line.

I remember years ago one of my guy friends was upset because Dunkin Donuts stop selling Hot White Chocolate & he use to get one every morning before work. Being the kind female friend that I am, I invited him over & made him some hot white chocolate from scratch. Aawww, how sweet! Yea, that’s what I though until he expected me to make it for him all the time. Uummm,I was being nice as your FRIEND, you are not my man so you don’t get all these special treatments.

Sometimes when it comes to my female friends, if they are down & out, I do my best to cheer them up, I’ll even take them out just to put a smile on their face. What are friends for, right? Well, some of them got too comfortable with this special treatment that they would call me often and asking what we doing, where we going or will see me out via social media clips and ask how come I didn’t invite them. Look, I do nice things for you because I’m your friend but you can’t keep expecting all of this. I don’t need to check in. I don’t have to invite you to everything I do. I have my own life to live. I am not your man. Go find one LOL

I always tell people, a friendship is very similar to a relationship without the intimacy depending on how kinky your friendship is. There’s nothing wrong with doing something special for your friends. Friends are the relatives you get to choose for your own family. Also, there’s nothing wrong with embracing a friend who enjoys doing nice things for you but don’t forget they’re just your friend! Not your boyfriend, not your girl friend, just your FRIEND! People get some comfortable that they forget the title the other person actually has. It’s not their job to do certain things, don’t make the friendship uncomfortable trying to force them to fill that void you secretly wish you had someone special to fill.

I know a lot of you can relate to this topics so don’t be shy. Leave a comment explaining a scenario where your friend was getting to use special treatments given by you or expecting so much from you as if you were their companion and not just their friend. I’m secreting hoping to hear some funny stories so don’t be shy!

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The Quest Chronicles: Business & Pleasure @TQuestGLM

Ever had the fantasy of going into the board room with the boss man, he lifts you up, lay you on the table & devours you? Let me fix my skirt before I step out the room… how’s my hair? No, just me… ok! lol! Now, that I have your attention, let’s really talk. Over the years, I’m sure many of us have heard that you shouldn’t mix business with pleasure yet on the flip side there are a lot of successful business couples out there, power couples at that. That’s a thin line yet scary line to cross but in certain cases, there are actually great outcomes. The QUESTion is, if you don’t receive the outcome you desire, where do we go from here?

In a male dominated industry, I came across a lot of foolery. I’ve rolled my eyes and shook my head on numerous occasions.  I understand that biologically we are attracted to the opposite sex & will be around them but what we can’t do is throw respect & professionalism out the window.

I’ve noticed a lot of men started to treat me differently especially when it came to business once they found out I wasn’t interested in them on a personal level. God forbid if I was in a relationship, they would have really disowned me then!

I literally got dismissed from a movie because the writer/director caught feelings for me after hanging out a few times (hanging out for research purposes only) Once I told him this was strictly business and I’m not interested, He pretty much told me, that he mind as well stop investing into something that’s not happening for him. That hurt my feelings and it’s not fair that I no longer could have the role.

I’ve even tried working with a publicist and since I wasn’t interested, he basically didn’t want to work with me. I guess it would make him uncomfortable knowing he has feelings. Here we go again with the foolery!

What happened to business is still business? I work hard & shouldn’t be overlooked for opportunities just because of the thirst buckets in charge. I know my work and know I deserve better but since i’m still human, in those moments, it did hurt.

We can’t forget to be professional & most importantly, we can’t forget to be respectful. Handle rejection with maturity & continue to make moves. If you’re that weak then you may need another profession. I’ve worked with men I was once interested in and if we didn’t hit it off, I didn’t treat them any different. I respected what it was & still continued the tasks that were at hand as a mature profession business woman.

This is a problem in society because it’s not fair to people trying to do better in life and have to be overlooked because of personally issues. Something has to give. This topic, I can go on forever because I been in so many situations dealing with this but I’ll rather here from you all now. Men & women, let me know some of the encounters you’ve had when it came to business mixing with pleasure. Good or bad, I want to hear your stories so don’t be shy.

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The Quest Chronicles: Family Awareness

We are family! Got all my sisters with me. You all remember the song? I’m sure you all remember the quote “Blood is thicker than water” too. Do you know the importance of the blood in your body? The body can’t function the way it’s suppose to unless the blood is flowing properly. The blood is important just like family is. Charity starts at home.

As family, we should be each other’s first love, best friend, biggest cheerleader , supporter and fan. In most cases, it’s not like that & it breaks my heart. We have to break this generational curse because it seems like it’s only getting worse.

When was the last time you called you mom, dad, sister, brother or even cousin to check on them? Not saying “how you doing” & then ask for something because that doesn’t count. When you get to the point that you have to prepare yourself before answering the call from a family member because you know what the call is going to be about ahead of time is a problem.

FOE (Family Over Everything) We have to get back to that, especially if the relationship is there or fixable depending on your situation or circumstance. I’m tired of the “Whatchu want” tone when on the phone because the only reason someone may call is because they want something. I’m tired of only taking time out to visit family because someone passed a way. All of a sudden we start to get those ” I’m so sorry for your loss” phone calls, text massages & DM’s. You were not checking for me before so why now? Did you get a wake up call or is this just a “moment” of sympathy?

Yes, in situations that brings the family together should be a hint that we have to work harder to keep the family love strong but it’s temporary. It’s the same speeches every funeral but then nothing changes. It reminds me of church services where the pastor would preach, it’s relate-able to people lives, you hear them say “I know that’s right pastor”; “I know that message was for me.” Few hours later, back to the same shenanigans.

This has to stop. Life is too short. We mush bring back the love. We must make the time for one another. We can’t be too consumed with other parts of life. I speak about it often that life can be hectic and overwhelming but sacrifices and adjusting has to be made. We have to stop trying to make change when it’s too late or talk about it but then don’t put no action behind it. It’s a lose lose when there’s room to win.

Like always, leave your comments below because I truly desire to know how you feel and if you’ve ever been in these situations.

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The Quest Chronicles: Hidden Intimidation

I don’t understand people & I never will. I can’t wrap my head around the fact that people are ok with settling & love to praise mediocrity. As an entrepreneur I can’t help but to wonder and take things personally. For example, on social media you can post that you started a business & receive no LIKES, yet you can post that you got a new job and then whole world is ready to congratulate you? It is me or is that backwards? When did having a business became less than working for “THE MAN”???

It makes me wonder, are people afraid to congratulate you because they don’t want to feel obligated to support you? If they ignore the post, they feel they’re in the clear. Think about it. In their mind, if I don’t click LIKE or acknowledge then maybe I won’t feel the pressure of buying or attending anything. This may be for financial reasons, a possibility that they just don’t care for your products or simply don’t want you to succeed.

Another personal experience: I write for a magazine weekly, yes I get traffic but when I promote it, not many say anything about it. I’ll receive views but barely get a LIKE & most definitely don’t get a share. Recently another writer wrote about me so I posted about it & I got praised for it. Wait a minute, you’ll congratulate me on being recognized yet won’t support what I’m being recognized for. How backwards is this?

Is it quicker to just say congratulations then to take the time to check out what you’re actually congratulating them on? Are we really that busy or deep down inside truly don’t care? Are we afraid to admit that we don’t want to see the next succeed? What’s the real issue?

Let’s switch this up for before I end this.

Why are we so quick to support & praise strangers before we support our very own, family members, friends and or associates? Then again based off studies, it’s seems to be more common in a certain culture… something has to give. We need answers and serious change.

Like always, leave your comments below because I truly desire to know how you feel and if you’ve ever been in these situations.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by commenting, sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

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The Quest Chronicles: What Do You Want?

What do you want? Chicken or Fish? Stay in or go out? Make love or rough sex? Single or Taken has even been a complicated QUESTion! Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and ask, who am I, what do I like, what turns me on, what I do want, what do I need, better yet, what do I deserve?

To a certain extent like Lauren Hill said ” It can all be so simple, but you’ll rather make it hard.” Life ain’t easy but it doesn’t has to have so many complications if we take control the proper way. So many single individuals are always searching for that one but barely know and understand self. If someone is to ask you personal questions and on average your answers are “I don’t know, I’m not sure, never even thought about it, there’s a problem. How can someone get to fully know you if you don’t even know yourself? How can you jump into a new relationship without fully closing the chapter on the last one?  How can you try to find a doctor to heal your hurt if you can’t explain the symptoms and pain?

When is comes to business, many want to be entrepreneurs but don’t even know the basics. “I want to be a boss” but do you even know how to lead? “I want to own a business” but have you even written out a blueprint or business plan? Do you have the proper funds or enough knowledge to even get it off the ground? These are questions we need to think about.

Yes, we live in a society that is very fast pace especially in the world of technology but everyone can’t keep up.  When was the last time you sat down, turn off all devices & did some self reflecting? Do you even know yourself? You say you want a relationship but are you ready for one? If you’re in a relationship, are you giving it your all & or are you putting yourself on the back burner?

As for myself, I’m tied into so much as far as business, music & personal life that I didn’t realize things weren’t progressing the way I hoped. So what did I do, I stopped everything & did a reset on life. I had a hard self reflecting and was honest enough to recognize the issues and started to work on a way to fix them. We have one life so I desired to make the best of it. So if it takes me not going out or not dating to figuring out ME, my finances, goals & life all together then so be it. I owe it to mySELF!

To wrap this up, I just want you to look at where you’re at, where you’re trying to go & sacrifice some time to rewrite a plan so you can start living the life you want, desire & need. I say all this because I care. I want to see everyone exceed.

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The Quest Chronicles: The Wingman

A Wingman: a guy you bring along with you on singles outings (like to bars) that helps you out with the women. Now if you’re out & the female is engaging instantly, how long do you still allow the wingman to speak for you?

I remember I was out to lunch & this guy kept starring at me so I smiled back to be polite. In my mind I felt that since I gave the hint to approach me, he would. So many men are becoming predictable, I pretty much knew how this was going to turn out. Me being me, I was curious so I entertained myself with the next approach.
After this man kept looking at me, I got up and acted as if I was leaving. This indicating that he possibly lost his chance at getting my number or even knowing who I am. He hissed at me, I turned & said, “only snakes hiss, that’s no way to get a lady’s attention”. That’s when they laughed & of course the wingman was the first to speak to me. It was awkward because clearly the other guy wanted to talk to me but as soon as I was in his face, he barely had much to say. It almost came to a point where I was tempted to give the wing man my number since technically he’s the one i’m conversing with. Let’s be clear, I could have but I didn’t. It would be hurtful & the wingman would have just given my number to his friend because he was pressing for me to give my number to him already.
I actually had to ask if he could talk because i’m trying to figure out why the wrong one is still conversing with me and speaking for someone who can clearly speak for themselves.  How this story ends, well I eventually gave him my number, we been secretly dating for 2 years and expecting a child… just kidding but let’s continue with the topic at hand because now I have QUESTions.
 
How old are we? Why are we still playing these games? Yes, some may be intimated to speak to someone they find attractive or fascinating but once you get the GO… why are you still acting as if the light is red or yellow proceeding with caution? In some cases, the wingman actually ends up with the girl because women like men with confidence who can speak for themselves. Playing games like this is not always going to work in your favor. Are you OK with these risks?
What many fail to realize is, acting like this can actually be a turn off especially being of age. These men were clearing in their 40’s or early 50’s, I expected more from them but I ended up disappointed as usual. Will the madness ever end? Dating is so difficult…SMH!
 
My life, my stories, your entertainment so you know what’s coming up next. That’s right, leave your comments below & let me know how you feel about the wingman, have you been one or used one? Better yet for the ladies, have you ever been in a  situation where the wingman approached you and please let me know the outcome because I’ve very curious. 
 

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The Quest Chronicles: Southern Disaster

The southern gentleman. A women’s dream. Well mannered, hospitable, with that cute accent, SOLD! Well, I thought I was, but based off what I recently experienced, let’s just say TIME HAS CHANGED!

I recently moved to the south from my home state Connecticut. As I began to adjust, it’s been all work no play so I decided to live a little. Let’s see what these southern men are all about & they came flooded! I’m a workaholic so I’m use to being around my music colleagues. This is my first time being around normal men on the regular.
I noticed a pattern with each man that approached me. They were either already in a relationship, a male thot or married. For a moment I questioned myself. Am I coming off as a certain type of female? If so, I need to reevaluate my life! Then with the quickness, I said I need to stop tripping. I’m not doing anything wrong. I’m out here minding my business, dressed appropriate, well manned, soft spoken with a beautiful smile. I’m not giving off that “bust down thotiana” vibes so it must be them.
Many of them hasn’t even made it passed a conversation let alone a date.
1st Guy: I have a “friend” but it’s not serious because we’re not married.
Uummmm does she know she’s just a friend?
2nd Guy: Your voice gives me a hard on & make me wanna do some things. I’m about to hop in the shower to cool off, you want to video chat & watch?
Uummmmm I don’t know you like that.
3rd Guy: I’m in town on business, I have an ole lady at home. I just want a female to kick it with while I’m here.
Uummmmm am I an escort?
4th Guy: Why you playing with me? When you gonna let me get that kitty kat. You can’t be stingy.
Uummmmm, leave my vagina out of this!
5th Guy: I got money, I want to take care of you. I’m married but I still want to have fun. You like married men right?
Uummmm wait…WHAT??!!!!
There were a few more but you get my drift. Now by no means am I saying all men are like this. You know my blog is my personal experiences & everything from MY perspective. All I’m saying is, this is not a great start to trying to get to know new people.
I honestly want to just get back in my work bubble & call it day like I was doing before because this is too much! I have much more to say but I’ll keep that for my up & coming book so stay tuned.
Please leave your comments & thoughts because you know I love to hear from you!

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