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The Quest Chronicles: Men Being Pampered is a Crime?

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Baths, massages, manicures & pedicures are AMAZING so why are men against it? They say, “That’s for females!”  Is it or are many of you brainwashed by the marketing of companies who put it in your head that these activities are for women? For men who haven’t experienced any of these, you may be missing out!

The other day I was talking to one of my fellow Djs & he told me he’s over worked. Between his 9 to 5 & Djing almost every night, its causing wear & tear to his body. He’s experiencing aches & pains so I suggested him to take an Epsom salt bath to soothe his body. Athletes as well as myself goes to a place called Purest Float where you get into a subtank of 10 inches of water, 100 pounds of Epsom salt & you float naked. Studies show that it helps lower blood pressure, help with chronic pain, lower stress levels & more. When I mentioned it, he laughed at me as if I said something crazy! He said, “What I look like, sitting in the tub, my boy calls, ask what I’m doing & I tell him I’m taking a bath. You know how crazy that sounds?”

I was like, ” You know how crazy YOU sound?!” Who cares what you boy thinks?! You don’t even have to mention you’re taking a bath. You don’t owe anyone an explanation or details of what you’re doing especially if it’s for your well being. I’m tired of people doing or not doing things because of other people.

Do you know how many guys especially athletes who take baths? Ice baths at that? It’s just like men who get massages. Yes, spas are marketed to target women clientele but it’s for men too. Couple massage specials wasn’t created just to have the guy lay next to his lady getting a massage for the fun of it. Men need them too. It’s very common in the medical field, provided at Chiropractic offices as well as a part of sports therapy. A natural self healing is not a crime nor feminine.

Let’s talk about self grooming. Manicures & Pedicures. Once again another activity marketed to female clientele but also important for men to receive as well. Men like to look good & keep up their physical appearance so why stop at a fresh cut, clothes & footwear? Just like you, females don’t want no man with crusty feet rubbing up on them. Especially not a good look in the summer time when they’re exposed. Even manicures are important for personal grooming. A man can be a hard worker but just like a female, at the end of the day, he should keep his fingernail clipped & clean. Men are so quick to want to touch us but let me see your hands & nail bed. Did you even wash your hands before you even try to touch me because that’s just nasty. Just like men expect female to keep up certain things, we expect the same to a certain degree. Not saying every two weeks we should go to the nail salon together but know that it’s not a crime to keep up with personal grooming & healing.

Let me wrap this up by saying it’s ok to do what you have to do for your own self healing & grooming. Don’t worry about what your boys may say! A masculine man who’s secure within himself is not ashamed to take a bath if his body is hurting, book a massage to get those knots out his back or get a manicure to keep his nail bed clean.

Time for me to ask a few QUESTions: As a man are you against baths, massages or any activities similar? Women, are you against men invading our spa days partaking in the same self maintenance or you like your man to take care of himself including these activities? Please give you your feedback.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

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The Quest Chronicles: If Only You Knew

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Why do people get annoyed by the happy-go-lucky person or co-worker especially in the mornings? As if being happy is a crime. The nerve to smile or laugh before noon!

Is it their fault that you’re not a morning person? Is it their fault that YOU woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Who are you to ask them to turn it down?
Sometimes I wish people did wake up & smell the roses. I wish people appreciated life more instead of ONLY thinking it’s too short when someone is sick or passes away.
As one of those happy go lucky morning people, I always defend others like me and embrace the excitement. Many didn’t even have the honor of waking up this morning or even have the strength to get out the bed. It’s real out here!
Do you all remember hearing, behind every big smile may lie the biggest secrets or hurt? Behind every bright eye or laughter may lie the most tears. In many cases this is very true. You never know what goes on behind close doors. You’re not aware of back stories or current situations nor is anyone obligated to state theirs. All I know is, this world is dark & sad as it is! If someone wants to wake up, smile, laugh or sing a song… I’m all for it. For all you know, that may have been the first smile after an earlier morning of tears because of a tragedy. Many professionals try to abide by the rule “Leave your problems at the door” so despite what may be occurring in their personal life, they don’t bring it into their workplace.
Believe it or not while there are people who dread going to work everyday & routinely wait until friday; there are others who actually use this place of employment as an escape from their reality.
How do I know this, I was one of them. I woke up every morning excited to work my 10+ hour shift everyday! First one there & last one to leave. Beyond dedicated. Stayed longer doing work, off the clock. Just call me super employee. That’s how it looked on the outside. On the inside, my workplace was my escape from my reality. There was so much going on in my personal life & entertainment career that my actual 9 to 5 (with its own personal headaches) was my moment of peace. Off social media, less people dumping their stress and toxin on me, begging for money & asking for my services for free. While having people on the verge of commiting suicide hitting me up to calm them down and at the same time knowing many people suffering in the hospital, trying to stay strong for them. Life became too much that I anticipated clocking in to have a moment to breathe. A moment to detach from my life so yea,
I always walked in with a smile on my face, bringing laughter & extra joy to any room I was in. There may have been some miserable souls who couldn’t stand it but there were others who embraced it and actually thanked me becauae my happiness warmed their hearts. I was their light while deep inside I was trying to not allow my inner light to dim with all I was going through secretly.
I write this blog to say this: You are blessed beyond measures. You have more going for you than you even notice. You’re upset about getting the bare minimum of likes on a post or upset you can’t find the right outfit for the club. You’re annoyed that its 8am, Jim & Emily are way too jolly for you right now because its too early, you want to go back to bed & rather not be here at the morning staff meeting. While your neighbor is trying to figure out how to keep the lights on in their home & how to pay their father medical expensives at the same time. Someone else is struggling, praying for a warm bed to sleep it wishing they had an early morning staff meeting to go to, have a job to help relieve some stress.
Let’s not look at the positive things in life as a negative. Smiling, laughing, loving & embracing one another is a natural healing. Be kind to one another, you never know who’s life you could change for the better with that small gesture.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by commenting sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

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The Quest Chronicles: How Traditional Are You?

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Thanksgiving! The late start of the meal, the long winded prayer & the tradition of going around the table telling everyone what you’re thankful for! Sounds familiar?

The holiday is officially over! Are you stuffed? Did you enjoy spending time with your loved ones? Did you have to work? Better question, you don’t have anymore leftovers right because at this point, that’s just nasty!

I’m very aware of where this holiday stems from but let’s focus on what it stands for in the present time. The first bonus as a student is that you don’t have to go to school. Time to give your brain a little break. Some  jobs depending on your position, you may have the day off with pay. Now who doesn’t love that?  Now, there were cases where people had to work on the holiday. If you were one of them, were you OK with it?

Me personally, I spent this year a little different than the norm. My best friend came by and even though my family cooked, we actually went out to an Indian restaurant & ate. We enjoy being different.  It wasn’t your average turkey, stuffing and cranberry sauce but it was quite delicious. With her being a vegetarian, the average options my family prepared wouldn’t work for her. Many people I know, wouldn’t have left all that good food but at the same time, I’m not your average person. As long as I’m fed, I’m satisfied.

As I got older and began to come into my own, my traditional values shifted to better fit my life. I love my family with all my heart but I wouldn’t be devastated if I didn’t spend a holiday with them. I was brought up in a home where a big feast usually prepared on Sundays was the norm so I never had to do a countdown to Thanksgiving in order to really DIG IN. Before I became a full time entrepreneur, I was the employee who didn’t mind working on the holidays. No, I wasn’t at a job that paid time and a half which sucks but I was good just getting paid in general. I was able to see my family before or after my shift so to me it was a win win.

One tradition, to which I still can’t fully understand is the hopping from house to house to get a plate. Who wants to spend the time driving? I’ll rather enjoy my family, eat & relax. In my mind, everyone makes the same main courses so what’s the point? Last week, I asked a friend who actually takes part in this activity to give me a better understanding. He stated that his family are not that GREAT of cooks so he likes to go to other people’s home for that GOOD GOOD! I guess it depends on your strengths and weaknesses. Just like in the summer time, everyone can’t make great potato salad so for thanksgiving, everyone can’t make that bomb macaroni & cheese, stuffing & sweet potato pie.

Shout out to my family full of cooks and chefs. I never had this issue. My friends enjoy coming to my parties over the years more for the food than anything. I give thanks to the FAM for sure!LOL

Let’s add a little LOVE or strong LIKE into this: Did anyone meet the family of their new significant other this year? How do you decide who goes where for the holiday? Your families or theirs? Anyone ever excited to spend time with their in laws? Holidays are a big deal so I’m sure there are some great stories, Please don’t hold back, we all want to know 😀

Time to wrap this up so my additional QUESTions for you are: How traditional are you? Do you still travel to see family for Thanksgiving? Are you terribly upset if you have to work on the holiday? Are you the type to hop house to house for plates? How long did your Thanksgiving leftovers stay in your fridge? Last but not least, comment a few things you are thankful for.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

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The Quest Chronicles: Dating An Entertainer

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Lights, camera but maybe no action! Being an entertainer, dating an entertainer or attempting to date at all is not what it cracks up to be. Well, at least not for me. I personally feel it’s a gift & a curse trying to balance out having a music career while bringing some normalcy to my life.

Shout out to all my independent women! Boss Ladies stand up! As a woman who is a boss, it’s rewarding. I call the shots, they report to me, I am the head lady in charge but once clocked out, things change. There is nothing wrong with having your own but some of us desire to share it with someone special.

I’ve tried to date regular men as well as men who work in the entertainment industry & so far, it has not worked out whatsoever. Let me write a few of the situations I been in to give you a taste of my dating experiences.

Let’s talk about going out. Whether it was a regular guy or an entertainer (Music artist, Djs, etc) I ended up having the same problem or issue. As a well known public figure, when I’m out and about people tend to come up to me, say hi, catch up,& possibly want a picture. I’m an entertainer so this shouldn’t be shocking. As for the men I was dating, they had a problem with it. Some felt left to the side, some showed insecurities, feeling uncomfortable to the point they started to think the worse. “Who’s this person?” “How well do she know him?” I wonder if they ever been intimate or is this really a fan?” Usually people assume only females think like this but I know from personal experience that so do men.

To a certain extent I can understand why regular guys would feel some type of way because they’re not use to this lifestyle. At first they may feel they can handle it until they actually have to. As far as entertainers, I was very shocked! You work in the same field as me. I expect you to have a better understanding of how it is. Women come up to you but I don’t feel no type of way. Either way, if a person is not secure within themselves, there will always be a problem.

Another big issue is TIME. We’re always on the go, appearances, performances, bookings, meetings & more. Not just entertainers neither but in this case, we are the topic. Many understand time is limited but still complain when they don’t get enough of the other person’s time. I know it can get hard as well as very challenging but as I stated earlier, this comes with the territory. We have to sacrifice and compromise but don’t try to make us feel bad because we can’t give you all the time you want. That’s not fair, especially if you see many of us trying to balance it all out, the best way we know how. This goes back to knowing and understanding your mate or potential mate. It’s not for everyone.

Social Media: With this topic alone I can write a book series but I’ll keep it short.LOL Social media will have you walking on egg shells if you don’t know how to use it properly. From fans, to stalkers being flirtatious to sliding in Dm’s, It can get messy if you allow it to. But let’s not focus on others, let’s focus on the two in the relationship or “talking” to possibly be exclusive. Some will see all your posts, notice what you click LIKE on, pay close attention to what people write on your page , how you respond and if you interact according on their page as well. Guys I may have been interested in, definitely took the fun out of it all! They were too into their feelings not realizing that it’s nothing but social media and if they paid more attention to me and not others, they would have noticed that.

  • How long is your studio sessions?
  • Who were those people in your Instagram video?
  • How come you’re not home yet?
  • You have to go out of town again?
  • How come I can’t go?
  • Do you have something to hide?
  • Who are you with?

This blog only scratches the surface but I’ll end it here for now. Just beware of who you date, trying to date & know what may come with it.

As usual, I only gave a tease on the topic. Why, because I love for you all to chime in with your personal experiences & opinions so you know what to do below.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

Email me topics to discuss & QUESTions you may have. To learn more about me or to hear about certain topics in dept please download my app “T-Quest” in your google play store & visit my website GottaLoveMeWorld.com

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The Quest Chronicles: Moment of Silence

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A moment of silence. A moment of peace. A moment to breathe. A moment to cry & release. In this world we live in today, these moments are critical.

Many read articles, watch the news & hear tragedies happening all around. Most don’t internalize them because they’re not personally affected or may feel remorse because the situation is either close to home or very relate-able.  I hurt for the innocent lives that are being taken as well as the sick and suffering.

Recently in my own personal life, there has been a few deaths. People lose family members and friends everyday. Someone is always hurting, grieving, mourning & crying.

Life is not easy & no one is perfect. Life is too short and I personally feel that people are not realizing it as much as they should.  The main reason why I avoid confrontations & arguments. If it’s not life or death, it’s most certainly is not worth it.

With all that is going on in our world today many have asked me if I speak about it on my platforms as a music artist and radio personality? I honestly tell them “not often”. It’s not that I don’t care, I  personally use my platforms for other reasons. Social media is saturated with what’s going on already. When asked for my opinion, I give it, people respect it but I don’t dwell on certain topics too long and let me tell you why. It is very evident that we should address what’s going on in our society and culture but at the same time, EVERYONE is addressing it. As for me, I like to use my platform, not to bring up matters that makes everyone upset or sad but to put smiles on their faces like comedians do. They address certain topics in a comedic way to bring awareness then balance it out with laughter. I don’t want to be another person to make you upset, even if what I’m addressing is the truth.

Allow me to be someone who motivates you, make you laugh & put a smile on you face. Let me love you, embrace, you, hug you and let you know everything is going to be ok.

We need more leaders, mentors, positive listeners & cheerleaders. I’m not here for you to relive all that you’ve been through over and over again but I’m here to let you know that you are strong enough to get through.

Life is hard, so why must we make it harder on ourselves and others? Let’s minimize the arguing & lets make an effort to get over situations quicker. Let’s be here for each other as much as we realistically can be.

I end with this, think about your own struggles, now think about how many others that are going through the same situations or worse. We’ve all experienced loss, tragedies & have struggled in some way so who are we to add more burdens or negativity to someone’s life? We are only accountable for our own action so I ask you, please take the time out to love more people, give more hugs, encouragement & compliments. You never know if that one simple action towards someone else could have just saved their life. Holidays are around the corner. The season of the most depression and suicides. Be a blessing to others.

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Like, Share but No Support

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Do it for the gram, do it for the gram, today’s society is all about the LIKES! Drop that pic, the LIKES start flowing in! Drop that track, they’ll scroll right pass. Post something ignorant, it gets all the attention. Post your business, you won’t even get a SHARE. Tell me what’s wrong with this picture?

I work hard & so proud of my own accomplishments, but let me post it on social media and it ruins everything! I can announce something amazing happened but as soon as I’m about to post a product for purchase… crickets. All the people who rooted for me to get the business started, all of a sudden is silent when it comes time to support & purchase.

I started monitoring a few of my Facebook friend’s pages to see if what I believe is true. One guy post silly memes all day long and get tons of LIKES & laughing emojis. As soon as he post something serious, supporting another business owner or post good music… his likes MAY reach 3. I ask again, what’s wrong with this picture?

One day I posted about my clothing line, new music & my radio show… a few likes, NO Shares, no customers.  Many SEE the posts, but choose to not respond. I post a meme about what’s your Wokanda name… 105 comments, 57 Likes & 17 shares. Let’s ask again, what’s wrong with this picture?

Remember my blog is about life from MY perspective & my experiences so many things may not apply to all. For certain people, social media works for them & they may have the right followers/fans & supporters/customers. For the average up & coming entrepreneur especially in the entertainment field, it’s not always the case. I constantly see posts about “Zero support” & how it makes them feel some type of way which I can understand.

So instead of ME answering these next QUESTions, I ask all of you!

  • If you are part of the group who complains about no Likes, Shares, or Support, how many times have you actually, Like, Shared or supported?
  • Are you apart of the group who are friends with entrepreneurs but rarely show up, click purchase or help promote?
  • Are you the ones who continue to say, “I see you doing your thing” “keep up the good work” “I’m proud you” “you always have my support” yet put NO action behind it!
  • Or are you the type of person who act like you don’t see anything at all especially when confronted?

Let’s talk about it! Please feel free to comment below & tell us your opinion or personal experience with this topic. I want to hear from YOU!!!

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questfied! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

Email me topics to discuss & QUESTions you may have. To learn more about me or to hear about certain topics in dept please download my app “T-Quest” in your google play store & visit my website GottaLoveMeWorld.com

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The Quest Chronicles: DM’s & Receipts

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It goes down in the DM & I have receipts to prove it! You can easily unfriend & unfollow but those messages are forever there! How well do you trust people? How comfortable are you to speak to others? If the relationship goes wrong, will screenshots be presented?

As a female & public figure people assume my DM’s are flooded constantly.  From Facebook to Instagram to Snapchat! Don’t get me wrong, I definitely have my share & usually slight irritated especially if it’s not about business. Social media platforms were made to socialize & to NETWORK so I focus more on the networking part. Guys would send me their dating profiles as if we were on POF or E Harmony! Wrong platform baby boy! Enough is enough but you can’t get mad at them for shooting their shot with someone they’re interested in.

Now I must admit, let it be a cutie then I’ll allow him to converse with me a little longer than others. Hey, I have to be honest. When I first signed up on social media I was a new up and coming artist but at the same time, I was slowly breaking out of my shell as a young woman. I was a nerd in school & not use to talking to guys so it was fun for me.  I even started to slide in their DM’s. As I got older, I usual slide for business but when my flirtation side comes out, I will still use business as my initial conversation starter. It’s all a game and you have to know how to play it. But in the midst of all the fun and games, reality sets in and everything changes.

As usual, I do self reflections. Would kind of message am I portraying when I’m sliding in DM’s & Flirting? What happens if I think it’s all fun & innocent then next thing I know it’s actually someone’s wife or girlfriend typing to me. Not a good look at all. Even if you think you’re close enough to someone & have that type of relationship where you can be silly or a little flirtatious, at a certain age whether single or not you still have to be mindful. Something so innocent can cause so much chaos.

Looking at this topics from a business aspect, it does have it’s advantages. There were times I would be in a meeting or on a conference call talking about business & the other party act like they don’t know what I’m talking about. It’s cool, let me pull up my receipts & refresh your memory. It would be in those moments I either relay back to a contract, an email, message or text & highlight said part to let them know, I have proof of said discussion. Verbal agreements are just not cutting it anymore because we live in a society where everyone has amnesia when it comes to them getting called out on their nonsense.

I want to have some fun on this topic because many can relate in different ways good or bad so I ask you all, what were some of your most interesting DM encounters? Have you ever slid in someone’s DM & it worked? Have you ever had to pull out receipts on anyone either personal or for business? Do you believe it’s somewhat childish?

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The Quest Chronicles: Awakening

Awakening

Awakening: An act or moment of becoming suddenly aware of something. When was the last time you were awakened?

5 4 3 2 1….  Happy Birthday!!!! Yes, October 20th was my birthday & I feel great! I received exactly what I wanted which was to be happy. Simple request but not always the case. Last year, 30 was supposed to be a turning year for me & it was but not as I expected it to be. I looked at it as a TEST year. I ended up looking at every section of my life in a new perspective. My relationships with my friends, family & others have changed. Going into age 30, I was excited until others knew what age I was going to turn. I expected them to say, “Girl, welcome to the next bracket, 30 is the new 20, time to see life get REAL but in a good way of course! But NOPE, that’s not what I heard! I kept hearing them say, “this is when life gets hard, you probably gonna cry & you’re going to think you didn’t do much with your life, trust me, we all been there!” I was so aggravated from all the non-stop negativity as if 30 was a cursed year to dread. I honestly felt it brought a dark cloud over my year before it began. Like the bible says, ” Power of life & death is in your tongue” & boy did I feel that!

Their words came to LIFE! Ever since then, I knew 30 was going to have me on a roller coaster. It was so bad, I had to QUESTion so much & QUESTion a lot of people.  I came to realize that even when I give people the benefit of the doubt, some will find a way to let me down. Not always on purpose but still tiring after the 10th let down. Through it all I made it to my 31st year, I stayed strong, got through the chaos of 30 & that dark cloud started to fade away.

A few weeks before my birthday I went on a cruise to relax, have fun & to clear my mind. I sat on my balcony, looked at the water & my thoughts went to work. I reflected on my life, where I was & where I felt I should be. In that moment I knew it was time to take drastic measures.  I AWAKENED & realized that even though life was good, it wasn’t great as it should be. I was uncomfortable with my reality & it was time for a change. I desired to take everything to the next level and with that comes sacrifice, determination & risks! I quit my 9p to 5p, re-branded my own businesses & started packing my stuff & now moving away for a fresh new start! I felt a weight being lifted off my shoulders because I’m finally about to live my dream as a full time entertainer. No job or no one holding me back. I’m young, single, successful & ready to live my best life. Yes, some may look at me crazy but this feels right. I have a concrete plan & its already in the works. You have to believe in oneself and take a leap of faith to live out your purpose. So here I am! It may be difficult but I’m ready to take on all challenges. I know my purpose in life so I shall walk in it!

So I ask you, are you woke? Are you still dreaming? If not, what was your awakening moment? Please comment below.

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The Quest Chronicles: Babies… Overrated???

Babies… Overrated

Are you a parent? Were your children pre planned? If not & had the choice to not have children, would you do anything different? Weird question to ask especially after having the bundle of joys you love so much. Emotions & detachments aside… think about it.

It’s that time of year where I celebrate the most important day… MY Birthday! October 20th to be exact. Happy New Year to ME! Time to celebrate, correct? Yes, but for me it’s time to reflect. Time to think about the year that has just went by, what have I done, what have I accomplished, how comfortable am I with myself today going forward into my new year. The average person is so quick to “Turn Up” when it’s their birthday. Don’t get me wrong, I’m an entertainer & I love to celebrate ME but at the same time, I always make time to see what’s going on with ME.

A few weeks ago, I was in the recording studio with my best friend & engineer catching up on old times. Our birthdays are a day apart so we were talking about plans & then started to catch up on old times. We noticed that we’ve changed over the years but not only in the physical sense but mentally as well. We got on the subject about relationship status & babies. We noticed we’re all single & none of us have children as of yet. We must have been in-sync because we grew up wanting children but now questioning are they even in the cards anymore.

I was the young girl who wanted to get married, have 4 children (2 boys, 2 girls) big house, white picket fence & a golden retriever. Now at age 30, with a growing entertainment career, relationship status of single & don’t even date, things have change. There’s many steps to take before entertaining motherhood & when it’s time, would I even want to become a mother anymore? I’m still growing myself, learning myself, establishing myself. Relationship/Marriage to the side, am I financially stable, mental prepared & ready to have this major change in life? Yes, if it happens to happen I’ll just do what I’m suppose to do and be the best mother ever but while it’s still an option, do I want to have children or even one child?

Many young adults I spoken to around my age, had a similar vision growing up but now realize they’re not ready or never will be. Some feel that they are too selfish, don’t want to wake up in the middle of the night having to go to the hospital if the baby is sick or having to deal with the responsibility of getting their child ready for school every weekday morning. Some don’t even want to have to 2nd guess taking a trip out of state to an island if the opportunity presents itself. Right now, there’s no one holding them back but if a child is involve, they have to be considered in every decision they have to make from here on out.

So my QUESTions to you are: With your biological clock ticking, are you nervous? Would you feel less of a woman never conceiving?  As a man, are you ok with not having someone carry your last name? If you’re the type to want to wait until a serious relationship or marriage, are you concerned about the complications of having children at an older age? Could your future mate convince you to change your mind? What was your vision growing up verses where you stand today on this topic?

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The Quest Chronicles: Relationships in 2018

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RELATIONSHIPS!!! Boy have they changed over the years. From the way men court woman, to the importance of a relationship status, to playing with emotions as if they don’t matter.

This is an ongoing topic so I with tease you all with a few highlights & please feel free to comment afterwards.

There’s a hashtag that circulates all over the internet including memes which states ” Relationship Goals (RG’s)”.  RGs are ideals, lessons, values or experiences to aim for in your intimate partner relationship. Instead of being unattainable, it should be inspirational.  RG’s varies from Barack Obama & Michelle to Jay-Z & Beyonce & one of my favorites Papoose & Remy Ma just to name a few. Who wouldn’t want to be a power couple? Beside couples, when referring to values & lessons I ask you, what are your RG’s as a single person? What’s are you RG’s as a couple? ( Please Comment Below)

Throwback: I remember when a man use to approach a lady he found attractive and would ask her out on a date then start courtship to see if things can go any further between the two. Many don’t even know how to ask a woman out properly anymore. How many of us have heard, “What’s good with you? What’s up? You tryna get up?  Netfix & Chill perhaps?”  It became so bad, guys don’t even bother to ask for phone numbers anymore. They ask for your Instagram name. This can’t be reality. I met a man at a lounge a few months ago, we conversed for a while and when he asked for my phone number, it was so foreign that I was turned on. How refreshing was that? What is social media doing to our culture, our society, our relationships? Living in the world of “Trending” is not looking so good. But let me shout out the men who were taught right, who still have old fashion values, who still have respect for woman, who still court. Everyone has not been brainwashed by the negativity of today’s society.

Ladies, you are not exempt from these behaviors because many of us have been not playing our parts neither.  This topic I shall go further in dept at another time so please stay tuned.

Taking it back to relationships: I remember being asked on many occasions, how important “titles” are when it comes to relationships. To me personally, I believe they are very important. In a way, it’s a sense of security in ones mind. If both parties agree to not have a title but a clear understanding to what’s entailed when it comes to their as I say “Situation-ship” then they’re fine. On the other hand, without proper communication & just going with the flow, problems have a possibility of growing. If I’m playing the role as a girlfriend without a title TECHNICALLY he’s not mines. If he wanted to talk to other females or date them, can I really get mad if we didn’t decide what this is between the two of us? Communication is key!

Like I stated earlier, this topic is broad and I can go on forever. I appreciate one of my readers suggesting that I speak about this. Keep them coming! There’s so many things I can discuss & break down so let’s have some fun. Comment below your feedback on the topics I spoke about above as well as give topics you’ll like me to address. Keep in mind that I will soon bring my blogs to my up & coming podcast & radio show. With that being said, you all have to continue to follow me to keep up with all the latest!

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