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The Quest Chronicles

The Quest Chronicles: Family Awareness

We are family! Got all my sisters with me. You all remember the song? I’m sure you all remember the quote “Blood is thicker than water” too. Do you know the importance of the blood in your body? The body can’t function the way it’s suppose to unless the blood is flowing properly. The blood is important just like family is. Charity starts at home.

As family, we should be each other’s first love, best friend, biggest cheerleader , supporter and fan. In most cases, it’s not like that & it breaks my heart. We have to break this generational curse because it seems like it’s only getting worse.

When was the last time you called you mom, dad, sister, brother or even cousin to check on them? Not saying “how you doing” & then ask for something because that doesn’t count. When you get to the point that you have to prepare yourself before answering the call from a family member because you know what the call is going to be about ahead of time is a problem.

FOE (Family Over Everything) We have to get back to that, especially if the relationship is there or fixable depending on your situation or circumstance. I’m tired of the “Whatchu want” tone when on the phone because the only reason someone may call is because they want something. I’m tired of only taking time out to visit family because someone passed a way. All of a sudden we start to get those ” I’m so sorry for your loss” phone calls, text massages & DM’s. You were not checking for me before so why now? Did you get a wake up call or is this just a “moment” of sympathy?

Yes, in situations that brings the family together should be a hint that we have to work harder to keep the family love strong but it’s temporary. It’s the same speeches every funeral but then nothing changes. It reminds me of church services where the pastor would preach, it’s relate-able to people lives, you hear them say “I know that’s right pastor”; “I know that message was for me.” Few hours later, back to the same shenanigans.

This has to stop. Life is too short. We mush bring back the love. We must make the time for one another. We can’t be too consumed with other parts of life. I speak about it often that life can be hectic and overwhelming but sacrifices and adjusting has to be made. We have to stop trying to make change when it’s too late or talk about it but then don’t put no action behind it. It’s a lose lose when there’s room to win.

Like always, leave your comments below because I truly desire to know how you feel and if you’ve ever been in these situations.

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The Quest Chronicles: Hidden Intimidation

I don’t understand people & I never will. I can’t wrap my head around the fact that people are ok with settling & love to praise mediocrity. As an entrepreneur I can’t help but to wonder and take things personally. For example, on social media you can post that you started a business & receive no LIKES, yet you can post that you got a new job and then whole world is ready to congratulate you? It is me or is that backwards? When did having a business became less than working for “THE MAN”???

It makes me wonder, are people afraid to congratulate you because they don’t want to feel obligated to support you? If they ignore the post, they feel they’re in the clear. Think about it. In their mind, if I don’t click LIKE or acknowledge then maybe I won’t feel the pressure of buying or attending anything. This may be for financial reasons, a possibility that they just don’t care for your products or simply don’t want you to succeed.

Another personal experience: I write for a magazine weekly, yes I get traffic but when I promote it, not many say anything about it. I’ll receive views but barely get a LIKE & most definitely don’t get a share. Recently another writer wrote about me so I posted about it & I got praised for it. Wait a minute, you’ll congratulate me on being recognized yet won’t support what I’m being recognized for. How backwards is this?

Is it quicker to just say congratulations then to take the time to check out what you’re actually congratulating them on? Are we really that busy or deep down inside truly don’t care? Are we afraid to admit that we don’t want to see the next succeed? What’s the real issue?

Let’s switch this up for before I end this.

Why are we so quick to support & praise strangers before we support our very own, family members, friends and or associates? Then again based off studies, it’s seems to be more common in a certain culture… something has to give. We need answers and serious change.

Like always, leave your comments below because I truly desire to know how you feel and if you’ve ever been in these situations.

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The Quest Chronicles: What Do You Want?

What do you want? Chicken or Fish? Stay in or go out? Make love or rough sex? Single or Taken has even been a complicated QUESTion! Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and ask, who am I, what do I like, what turns me on, what I do want, what do I need, better yet, what do I deserve?

To a certain extent like Lauren Hill said ” It can all be so simple, but you’ll rather make it hard.” Life ain’t easy but it doesn’t has to have so many complications if we take control the proper way. So many single individuals are always searching for that one but barely know and understand self. If someone is to ask you personal questions and on average your answers are “I don’t know, I’m not sure, never even thought about it, there’s a problem. How can someone get to fully know you if you don’t even know yourself? How can you jump into a new relationship without fully closing the chapter on the last one?  How can you try to find a doctor to heal your hurt if you can’t explain the symptoms and pain?

When is comes to business, many want to be entrepreneurs but don’t even know the basics. “I want to be a boss” but do you even know how to lead? “I want to own a business” but have you even written out a blueprint or business plan? Do you have the proper funds or enough knowledge to even get it off the ground? These are questions we need to think about.

Yes, we live in a society that is very fast pace especially in the world of technology but everyone can’t keep up.  When was the last time you sat down, turn off all devices & did some self reflecting? Do you even know yourself? You say you want a relationship but are you ready for one? If you’re in a relationship, are you giving it your all & or are you putting yourself on the back burner?

As for myself, I’m tied into so much as far as business, music & personal life that I didn’t realize things weren’t progressing the way I hoped. So what did I do, I stopped everything & did a reset on life. I had a hard self reflecting and was honest enough to recognize the issues and started to work on a way to fix them. We have one life so I desired to make the best of it. So if it takes me not going out or not dating to figuring out ME, my finances, goals & life all together then so be it. I owe it to mySELF!

To wrap this up, I just want you to look at where you’re at, where you’re trying to go & sacrifice some time to rewrite a plan so you can start living the life you want, desire & need. I say all this because I care. I want to see everyone exceed.

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The Quest Chronicles: The Wingman

A Wingman: a guy you bring along with you on singles outings (like to bars) that helps you out with the women. Now if you’re out & the female is engaging instantly, how long do you still allow the wingman to speak for you?

I remember I was out to lunch & this guy kept starring at me so I smiled back to be polite. In my mind I felt that since I gave the hint to approach me, he would. So many men are becoming predictable, I pretty much knew how this was going to turn out. Me being me, I was curious so I entertained myself with the next approach.
After this man kept looking at me, I got up and acted as if I was leaving. This indicating that he possibly lost his chance at getting my number or even knowing who I am. He hissed at me, I turned & said, “only snakes hiss, that’s no way to get a lady’s attention”. That’s when they laughed & of course the wingman was the first to speak to me. It was awkward because clearly the other guy wanted to talk to me but as soon as I was in his face, he barely had much to say. It almost came to a point where I was tempted to give the wing man my number since technically he’s the one i’m conversing with. Let’s be clear, I could have but I didn’t. It would be hurtful & the wingman would have just given my number to his friend because he was pressing for me to give my number to him already.
I actually had to ask if he could talk because i’m trying to figure out why the wrong one is still conversing with me and speaking for someone who can clearly speak for themselves.  How this story ends, well I eventually gave him my number, we been secretly dating for 2 years and expecting a child… just kidding but let’s continue with the topic at hand because now I have QUESTions.
 
How old are we? Why are we still playing these games? Yes, some may be intimated to speak to someone they find attractive or fascinating but once you get the GO… why are you still acting as if the light is red or yellow proceeding with caution? In some cases, the wingman actually ends up with the girl because women like men with confidence who can speak for themselves. Playing games like this is not always going to work in your favor. Are you OK with these risks?
What many fail to realize is, acting like this can actually be a turn off especially being of age. These men were clearing in their 40’s or early 50’s, I expected more from them but I ended up disappointed as usual. Will the madness ever end? Dating is so difficult…SMH!
 
My life, my stories, your entertainment so you know what’s coming up next. That’s right, leave your comments below & let me know how you feel about the wingman, have you been one or used one? Better yet for the ladies, have you ever been in a  situation where the wingman approached you and please let me know the outcome because I’ve very curious. 
 

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The Quest Chronicles: Southern Disaster

The southern gentleman. A women’s dream. Well mannered, hospitable, with that cute accent, SOLD! Well, I thought I was, but based off what I recently experienced, let’s just say TIME HAS CHANGED!

I recently moved to the south from my home state Connecticut. As I began to adjust, it’s been all work no play so I decided to live a little. Let’s see what these southern men are all about & they came flooded! I’m a workaholic so I’m use to being around my music colleagues. This is my first time being around normal men on the regular.
I noticed a pattern with each man that approached me. They were either already in a relationship, a male thot or married. For a moment I questioned myself. Am I coming off as a certain type of female? If so, I need to reevaluate my life! Then with the quickness, I said I need to stop tripping. I’m not doing anything wrong. I’m out here minding my business, dressed appropriate, well manned, soft spoken with a beautiful smile. I’m not giving off that “bust down thotiana” vibes so it must be them.
Many of them hasn’t even made it passed a conversation let alone a date.
1st Guy: I have a “friend” but it’s not serious because we’re not married.
Uummmm does she know she’s just a friend?
2nd Guy: Your voice gives me a hard on & make me wanna do some things. I’m about to hop in the shower to cool off, you want to video chat & watch?
Uummmmm I don’t know you like that.
3rd Guy: I’m in town on business, I have an ole lady at home. I just want a female to kick it with while I’m here.
Uummmmm am I an escort?
4th Guy: Why you playing with me? When you gonna let me get that kitty kat. You can’t be stingy.
Uummmmm, leave my vagina out of this!
5th Guy: I got money, I want to take care of you. I’m married but I still want to have fun. You like married men right?
Uummmm wait…WHAT??!!!!
There were a few more but you get my drift. Now by no means am I saying all men are like this. You know my blog is my personal experiences & everything from MY perspective. All I’m saying is, this is not a great start to trying to get to know new people.
I honestly want to just get back in my work bubble & call it day like I was doing before because this is too much! I have much more to say but I’ll keep that for my up & coming book so stay tuned.
Please leave your comments & thoughts because you know I love to hear from you!

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The Quest Chronicles: The Great Collaboration

A chance encounter leads to a great collaboration. The greatest story ever written is life itself. I became friends with someone who put a small piece of my love life on paper with ONE conversation. A taste of what’s in stored once my book is complete:

“I’m feeling that feeling again; I’m
playing a game I can’t win”
-Steve
Perry

The deafening sound of my silence
overpowers the sound of the water as it
washes over me. How did I find myself-
better still; how did I allow this to happen
again? I close my eyes, and I can still see
his smile. That captivating, inviting yet oh
so deceptive smile. His touch, his voice, his
scent. His…everything! God what I wouldn’t
give to be able to forget that he ever
existed.

I was him simplicity, he was my
complication.
What I saw in him was an escape. My
escape! He was also the lie I convinced
myself to be truth. He was…he was my
dark fantasy.
No matter how hard I cry. No matter how
hard I fight. No matter how much I tell
myself that I have to let him go; I somehow
always find myself in his arms. In his
embrace. In his bed. Trapped in my own
mind, the perfect hostage to my desires. I
convinced myself that my love for him was
strong enough to change the truth of who
he really was. But my love was nothing
more than a lie. A lie I kept using to put the
pieces of my broken heart back together. A
lie I held on to. A lie that never shielded me
from the harsh reality of us. There was
never us. There was him. There was me.
And now, once again; it’s just me.

It’s just me. Screaming for the world to
hear. Crying until my body shakes. Holding
myself simply because I want him to hold
me; I want him to kiss me, to tell me that
things will be different. I want him to lie to
me, if only to stop me from feeling the pain
that the truth causes.
The deafening silence of my tears
overpowers the sound of the shower as the
water cascades over my naked body.
Hoping that it washes away his touch.
Hoping that it washes away his scent.
Praying that it washes away my past. All I
can do now is wait.
Wait to live.
Wait to die.
Wait for an absolution; that will never come.
The simplicity that I found in his
complication. Is what made our complicated
love affair, so simple.

So simple in fact that he simply walked out
of my life.

Written by my new inspiration, Darryl Bishop #Author #Photographer #Dj #Comedian #Model

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The Quest Chronicles: Break up to Make up

Angry make up sex, so much aggression & sweat dripping everywhere! Harder thrusts, more pressure when throwing it back & more! Yes, this is the perfect time to take all your frustration out on me.

I love you Jody! Imma cook,  Imma clean, I’m gonna go make them tacos! We all remember that epic sex scene from the movie Babyboy. Sometimes it’s best to break up to have a fun make up session but is it worth it? Do you have to take it to that degree? Are we antagonizing each other on purpose or do some of us do it just for the perks that we know is coming after? Why can’t we just have angry sex to begin with?

I’ve witness people purposely getting upsetting their partner because they know what’s going to happen later, which in certain cases is make up sex. We’ve all heard that it’s more intense & feels much better that the average. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that you would start a fight or argument but for “angry sex” later… like WHY?

I’ve even known females who have plotted on their men, get upset, make him feel bad because they know that he’s going to doing something special, give them money or buy a present to get back on their good side. How old are we to be playing these games, playing with people & their emotions?

Let’s put a twist on this. What happens if your plan doesn’t work and next thing you know, there is no making out and they leave for good? Break up but no make up, who fault would it be? What real adult is around for these silly games? I personally don’t have time for the childish nonsense.

If you want to have rough angry sex, we can just have it without the pregame because many of the pre games arguments be messing with emotions and that’s unacceptable. It’s just something to think about. To each its own but I’m just stating my personal opinions as usual but  you know what to do below so leave those comments and share some of your personal experiences.

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The Quest Chronicles: Miss Me….NOT??

I MISS YOU! Message pop up in my DM. Sometimes you smile and then other times you cut the crap and reply, “Why?” or better yet, “What do you miss about me? They be like, ” You in general, your smile, your energy”… blah blah blah. Of course everything depends on who actually wrote it but at the same time, I personally don’t always accept it. Not trying to read too deep into the 3 words (I MISS YOU) but sometimes you have to challenge others. We’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using.

I remember a friend in which I haven’t seen in a long time called me. You know he hit me with the “hey, stranger” & me being ME responded with ” You know my name so use it!” He laughed & said, “I MISS YOU! You can always make me laugh with your silly self.” I can always count on you to make me smile. In this case, it’s acceptable because me making him smile brought back happy memories that we both shared.

Sliding in the DM’s  are a different story. I be ready to shut it down asap. Depending on the words that they use. They really be trying to convince you that they REALLY miss you knowing that they don’t. Let’s be clear, you have NOT been thinking about me whatsoever. The ONLY reason you even contacted me was because of recent pictures I’ve posted on my wall or in my stories that got me looking “hella goood” and now you want to slide on in…. my DM! LOL You didn’t miss me nor miss me… you just saw me and NOW all of sudden thinking of  how I’m doing and trying to see what’s up. Not falling for it mister! LOL

My favorite are the ones looking for the same answer in response. When reunited with certain people that be like, “I really miss you.” I be like, “aaawwww really, you know my number never changes, you could hit me up anytime.” Then they be like, do you miss me? Once again me being me be like “NOPE”. Now the world has come to an end because I didn’t respond the way they had hoped. Technically what I said wasn’t bad, it was just the truth. I’m the type of person who means  what I say and say what I mean. I don’t MISS YOU but it is definitely refreshing seeing you and talking to you again. You haven’t been on my mind. We’re adults with so much going on that thinking of everyone you know it not realistic but if we run into each other of course, i’m going to smile and will be happy to catch up. That’s a given if we have good vibes.

I only truly miss my family when we don’t see each other often and that’s only the ones i’m close to and my best friends. Other than that, the rest of the people…NOPE but just know that it’s “good to see you again” We all remember that saying!LOL!

I say all this to say, say what you mean, mean what you say. Think about the words you put out there and make sure you can back them up especially when talking to someone who may challenge you. Don’t be offended, just try to understand. Like I stated earlier, we’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using. I’m just here stating the REAL & bringing awareness! 😀

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The Quest Chronicles: Value My Time

You ever had a date scheduled? Cleared the calendar, got all dressed up, prepared something special and then they don’t even call to say they’re going to be late?!  How about the ones who say they’re going to be late & eventually don’t even bother showing up? Their response… “my bad” as if it didn’t required anything more. Yes, things come up but did you consider my feelings & my time?

People are too nonchalant about the wrong things as if it’s no big deal. How about the ones who take hours to plan something special, get a babysitter, take time off of work or reschedule plans to make sure they spend time with YOU & you pull some crazy stunt like this? Now, if you flip, they look at you as if you’re tripping. I don’t understand people and this happens quite often.

Me being an entrepreneur, let’s take it from a business aspect. If we are suppose to get up for a meeting or a session, do you think it’s okay to be late without notifying the other person? Someone else could have had your spot. You’re wasting my time and money that could have been made. Pulling a “no call no show is unprofessional as well. This ain’t cute nor funny, it’s pretty much disrespectful. The sad part is, when it’s on the other foot, people start to feel some type of way when it’s happening to them! Now if you were an employee and you got fired, I bet in that moment you’re going to feel some type of way because of the consequences.

I’m not even going to get started on the ones you believe in “CP” Time which means CRAZY PEOPLE time to me. Some of my friends and followers had to learn the hard way when coming to a few of my events because I start everything ON TIME and they end up missing most of the shows being LATE! This is one of the reasons why I get booked often because people understand I respect time and they never have to wait on me.

You can’t turn back the hands of time. Life has so many factors and anything can happen but some people needs to really think about others for once. This is an issue that’s been going on for decades and probably won’t change but I will continue to lead by example & hope others jump on the bandwagon. It scares me because the people I know who is usually late for many events as well as their job honestly don’t see nothing wrong with it.

This topic can go in different directions depending on your own personal experiences so i’m going to stop here and allow you to chime in below in the comment section. Let me know of your own personal experiences of people not valuing or respecting your time. I know there’s some interesting stories so don’t hold back!

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The Quest Chronicles: The Bigger Person

Many people in relationships get nervous in the middle of an argument when the other person all of a sudden becomes calm. They’ll sigh & say “You’re right” or “OK”. Some would just let you win to stop arguing whether they agree or not because fighting is draining. Does this solve the problem, no but for some people they feel it’s the only answer for the moment.

I’m not a confrontational person. I don’t fight nor argue. If I feel a situation is getting intense then I find a way to ease out of it the best way I can. That’s when I automatically become the BIGGER PERSON.

Don’t get me wrong, I am semi human so part of me would rather not be lady like nor professional & let some people HAVE IT! But, we all know the saying, “never allow people to take you out of your character” So I continue to be the bigger person and resolve the issues in a better way.

We’re already in a huge fight call LIFE so the last people I would want to fight with is my love, family, friends or co workers. If more people would fully LISTEN, COMMUNICATE properly & allow someone to have their own OPINION ,things could be a lot better! These small gestures can have such a big positive affect. Easier said than done yet it shouldn’t be hard to do.

I often question if people actually like to have confrontations? Do they like to argue & fight? Do they enjoy putting each other down?

Based off my lifestyle & how I was bought up, taking the high road is the way to go but still have to balance it. I learned that it’s ok to speak your mind even in an intense situation because it’s not healthy to always put your feelings to the side to spare the other person’s. Self love comes first. Not encouraging a brawl but have enough self assurance to let it be known how you feel about something in the best yet respectful way.

I’ll admit I don’t always want to be the bigger person but there are BIGGER things in life I would rather put my energy towards 😏

On that note, you know what to do down below!

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