I recieved many comments about last week’s topic: The Love Bully. People were writing about their personal experiences with the love bullies that have been in their lives. So this week I want to put a twist to it.
Yes, there are people who Express their love, affection & interests in you through playful arguments, insulted & being a bother but how healthy is that? Why so negative? Can we take it back to nice gestures & compliments?
How about when it comes to family, friends & co-workers? I’ve witnessed females calling each other the B word but in their reality is means “your my homegirl”, “I rocks with you”. Yes, the B word stemmed from an innocent word to something negative & now depending on how you use it, it’s a compliment? Spin it how you want, I still prefer not to be called it, just like the N word.
I noticed on teams, in schools & in work places coaches, teachers & managers/supervisors would ignore you, be extra hard on you, act like they don’t like you, having you questioning & thinking the Most! Meanwhile, you’re actually their favorite, the one they see have the best potential & depend/trust you more than the others. It’s their way to push you harder & their way of letting them know you’re awesome. Like, WHAT?!
Words of endearment or backwards compliments, you can save it! I don’t want to be called out my name. I don’t want to be ignored, talked down to, insulted & feeling like I’m being treated different from the others. Have my mind thinking, why don’t they like me, how come they’re coming at me so hard, how come I have to do all the work, why are they being so mean?!
Note, many do it to push you to your best potential & get thanked in the long run depending on the situation & I get that to a certain degree.
Me personally, wish people had new tactics, especially nowadays. The world is so cold & dark. There’s too much negativity all around. I don’t want to be an experiment. Just keep it real. Call me by my name. Tell me I’m doing great & keep up the good work. Don’t pick on me & insult me because I’m your family/friend so it makes it ok. Love me with real love. Let’s be nice. I know your not intentionally trying to hurt me, or make me feel some time of way but I’ll rather be a stranger in order to get respect because that’s what it looks like. I still love you all though lol
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