The Quest Chronicles: Miss Me….NOT??

I MISS YOU! Message pop up in my DM. Sometimes you smile and then other times you cut the crap and reply, “Why?” or better yet, “What do you miss about me? They be like, ” You in general, your smile, your energy”… blah blah blah. Of course everything depends on who actually wrote it but at the same time, I personally don’t always accept it. Not trying to read too deep into the 3 words (I MISS YOU) but sometimes you have to challenge others. We’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using.

I remember a friend in which I haven’t seen in a long time called me. You know he hit me with the “hey, stranger” & me being ME responded with ” You know my name so use it!” He laughed & said, “I MISS YOU! You can always make me laugh with your silly self.” I can always count on you to make me smile. In this case, it’s acceptable because me making him smile brought back happy memories that we both shared.

Sliding in the DM’s  are a different story. I be ready to shut it down asap. Depending on the words that they use. They really be trying to convince you that they REALLY miss you knowing that they don’t. Let’s be clear, you have NOT been thinking about me whatsoever. The ONLY reason you even contacted me was because of recent pictures I’ve posted on my wall or in my stories that got me looking “hella goood” and now you want to slide on in…. my DM! LOL You didn’t miss me nor miss me… you just saw me and NOW all of sudden thinking of  how I’m doing and trying to see what’s up. Not falling for it mister! LOL

My favorite are the ones looking for the same answer in response. When reunited with certain people that be like, “I really miss you.” I be like, “aaawwww really, you know my number never changes, you could hit me up anytime.” Then they be like, do you miss me? Once again me being me be like “NOPE”. Now the world has come to an end because I didn’t respond the way they had hoped. Technically what I said wasn’t bad, it was just the truth. I’m the type of person who means  what I say and say what I mean. I don’t MISS YOU but it is definitely refreshing seeing you and talking to you again. You haven’t been on my mind. We’re adults with so much going on that thinking of everyone you know it not realistic but if we run into each other of course, i’m going to smile and will be happy to catch up. That’s a given if we have good vibes.

I only truly miss my family when we don’t see each other often and that’s only the ones i’m close to and my best friends. Other than that, the rest of the people…NOPE but just know that it’s “good to see you again” We all remember that saying!LOL!

I say all this to say, say what you mean, mean what you say. Think about the words you put out there and make sure you can back them up especially when talking to someone who may challenge you. Don’t be offended, just try to understand. Like I stated earlier, we’re getting too lazy with our speech and in conversations. We’re writing words and relaying words that we really don’t mean but are in routine of using. I’m just here stating the REAL & bringing awareness! 😀

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[NEWS] The Most Amazing Story I’ve Read In A Long Time

I was on Quora browsing and I stumbled upon one of the greatest stories that I’ve read in a very long time. With all of the bad news that we have received lately after the presidential election and ongoing with Trump; it was nice to see humanity in action. My faith was restored. Daily I see people offending others because of their race or religion, and it has been so depressing and has even angered me honestly.

Adam August met a man named Tarec and here is their story as written by August:

What is the most soul satisfying thing you have ever done in your life?

There are times when you do something for someone or for your self. You feel contented and peace within you..

I’ve seen this guy at Starbucks in Marin City several times. Every time I’d see him I’d tell myself that I would take him to lunch but always found an excuse not to. Today was different. It might have been selfish but I was lonely. I didn’t want to spend the whole day alone. I walked up to him, put my hand on his shoulder and said “ do you want to have lunch with me?”

Tarec Atkinson was born and raised in Jamaica. When he was a kid, he dreamt of being a famous futbol (soccer) player. He was recruited to play in school but never got the opportunity because of some trouble he got in as a teenager. He moved to the states 8 years ago and has spent the last 12 months living in a tent by the side of the freeway. Tarec goes days without eating, sometimes living off of the berries he picks, he spends 90% of his time alone and has no friends and no family in the states.

After hearing it had been a month since he bathed, I brought him back to my apartment so he could enjoy a hot shower. Because of all these hardships, trying to get a job is impossible. How can you fill out an application when you haven’t eaten in days? I told Tarec that I would drive around with him next week and help him fill out applications and even speak on his behalf to help him land a job so he can get back on his feet. We agreed to meet that Friday at 9:30 AM at Starbucks.

If we were going to make this happen, I knew we had to get Tarec some new clothes. We stopped at Ross so he could pick out a shirt and some slacks. I was blown away at the immediate change in his demeanor. His smile was radiant, he stood up straighter, and even walked with a swagger.

I couldn’t convince him to tuck in his shirt. I guess you win some and you lose some haha.

Next step was to hit the streets. We spent the next two days going door to door to see who was hiring. We went to Walgreens, CVS, Safeway, Home Depot, Molly Stones, and Starbucks just to name a few. I would walk in with him so he knew he wasn’t alone. It can be overwhelming to walk into a business and ask for a job. I was very proud of him. We had a few positive responses but the majority of business’s told us that applications were submitted online. Easy enough right?


Tarec doesn’t have a computer. So we went to the local library and began filling out applications. And let me tell you something. We take our computer literacy for granted. Watching him struggle to fill out an application put so much into perspective for me. Some people judge our homeless. We’ve all heard someone say “why don’t they just get a job?” or “they’re lazy”. I saw firsthand how the “system” is set up to fail people like Tarec. There is no way he would have been able to do any of this without my help. Just like there are many things in my life I have needed someone to help me overcome an obstacle. We all need a little help.

After week of phone interviews Tarec landed an in person interview at Safeway. I remember driving to Safeway being nervous. I looked over to him and asked how he was feeling. He looked back at me and said “I got this”. I believed him.

I dropped him off, wished him luck and waited. 20 minutes later, I see him walk out of Safeway with a big smile and a thumbs up. I let out a Rick Flair sounding “WOO!”. We had accomplished a lot together in two weeks. It was an incredible moment.

Obviously we had to celebrate with a little ice cream! 🙂 

Like we all are, Tarec is searching for a purpose in life. He yearns for happiness. He craves for a woman to love and to feel the love from a woman. He wants to create a better life for himself so he could one day have a family and stability. He is just like you and me.

My hope in sharing this story is that it will inspire others to spread LOVE. We all need help in one way or another. Sometimes all someone needs is a friend. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.

 Thank you, Adam for sharing yours and Tarec’s story. I greatly appreciate it, and I hope that our readers will as well!

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