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TQUEST: The Quest Chronicles: Hungry, My Love? @TQuestGLM

Dinner time, in the kitchen rocking nothing but an apron that reads “How Do I Taste?” while wearing high heels waiting for him to come home. “Baby, dinner is served. Care for some wine? It’s just the way you like it, sweet like me.” Now doesn’t that sound delectable?!

Many may say, I would love for my lady to do that for me. Why can’t she? Why wouldn’t she want to? What woman wouldn’t want to cater to her man? Is she over worked or unhappy? Sounds like some readjusting needs to be made. I’m the type of women who is down to do anything that makes her man happy. If he’s happy, I’m happy & vice versa.

We can get in the kitchen and chef up something together. Come up behind me, body pressed on my body, puts his hands on my hands as I stir. “Here baby, come taste my sauce.” Now that can be taken many ways and I’m here for all of it! You can even have a little fun with it. You know how people are always arguing who is the better cook, you can’t make it like my momma, blah blah blah. Well, have a cook off, and winner gets a kinky surprise or something relaxing like a massage with an happy ending of course. Always have to keep the relationship fun and spicy.

Now if one doesn’t know how to cook, it’s ok. Try taking a cooking course together. It’ll be a fun date night & something different. You can even be a little clever with take out. Its not about KNOWING how to cook all the time because at the end of the day, everyone just wants to be fed a delicious meal. Homemade is just a bonus that can be remixed at times.

At the end of the day, it’s about making sure each other is good, fed, satisfy and happy. A little effect can go a long way. So, with that being said, Bon Appetit! You know what to do next, leave some comments. Tell me some of your fun Kitchen stories between you and your love or even a story where you attempted to do something special and it went wrong. Mistakes happens and its OK to laugh at it later. Just hoping no house was burned down because this can get awkward! lol

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[Relationships] A Girl Needs her Girl’s: National Bestfriend’s Day

It’s National Bestfriends Day!

Friendship, a solid friendship, has healing power. Think about a time where life seemed to be going downhill, no specifics needed, just think. Got it? Who did you vent to? Usually, the first person is a friend, and most times that friend has been through it too and can offer advice and/or just a listening ear with undivided attention. Friendships, like any other relationship, take work and will have its ups and downs but, if you’re lucky, you won’t have a falling out. My girlfriend’s and I have been friends since the sixth grade. Over the course of almost a twenty-year friendship, we’ve had disagreements but never had a falling out. We cared enough about each other to voice our oppositions and see the other persons point if view, even if we disagreed. We mutually encourage, pray, and build each other up, and there is healing power in those three components of friendship: Encouragement, Prayer, and Uplift.

“I see you queen.”

On Memorial Day weekend I was in Charlotte, NC with my two best friends for a girl’s trip; and why yes, Memorial Day is a time to commemorate those men and women who served in our Nation’s armed forces, it is also a time to gather with friends and family. These ladies have been true friends in every essence of the term, girlfriends. Women have a divine energy, so to be able to find girlfriends who carry the same interests and energy, is essential to the soul. I think back to the 90’s and early 00’s sitcoms like Living Single and Girlfriends that showed women, specifically black women, in positive leading roles. These women were professionals with degrees and businesses and still showed that they were not only women but human beings.

Encouragement, Prayer, and Uplift

I cannot tell you the amount of times that I needed a reality check or a shoulder to cry on, so, this post is dedicated to those women who think they don’t need friends. I also dedicate this post to those women who know exactly what I’m talking about when I say a girl needs her girl’s.


Women need to be the ones to encourage each other; we can heal a lot of wounds that way if we just look to our sister friends and say, “I see you, Queen.”


The power of a prayer circle works wonders. In a friendship, it’s helpful to have people who are praying for you and with you.


Women, we are our own worst enemies. We can be some of the cattiest, bitchiest, beings on Earth. There is a method to the madness, and that’s uplift. My friends and I have different measures of success, as we should because we’re all at the various stages in life. However, we are always willing to help our sister out. If there are job opportunities, training, or an item of interest that is found, we share it. We uplift one another with encouragement, prayer,  and support along the way.

In honor of National Bestfriends Day, tell your best friend how much you appreciate them.

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