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The Quest Chronicles: Relationships in 2018

RELATIONSHIPS!!! Boy have they changed over the years. From the way men court woman, to the importance of a relationship status, to playing with emotions as if they don’t matter.

This is an ongoing topic so I with tease you all with a few highlights & please feel free to comment afterwards.

There’s a hashtag that circulates all over the internet including memes which states ” Relationship Goals (RG’s)”.  RGs are ideals, lessons, values or experiences to aim for in your intimate partner relationship. Instead of being unattainable, it should be inspirational.  RG’s varies from Barack Obama & Michelle to Jay-Z & Beyonce & one of my favorites Papoose & Remy Ma just to name a few. Who wouldn’t want to be a power couple? Beside couples, when referring to values & lessons I ask you, what are your RG’s as a single person? What’s are you RG’s as a couple? ( Please Comment Below)

Throwback: I remember when a man use to approach a lady he found attractive and would ask her out on a date then start courtship to see if things can go any further between the two. Many don’t even know how to ask a woman out properly anymore. How many of us have heard, “What’s good with you? What’s up? You tryna get up?  Netfix & Chill perhaps?”  It became so bad, guys don’t even bother to ask for phone numbers anymore. They ask for your Instagram name. This can’t be reality. I met a man at a lounge a few months ago, we conversed for a while and when he asked for my phone number, it was so foreign that I was turned on. How refreshing was that? What is social media doing to our culture, our society, our relationships? Living in the world of “Trending” is not looking so good. But let me shout out the men who were taught right, who still have old fashion values, who still have respect for woman, who still court. Everyone has not been brainwashed by the negativity of today’s society.

Ladies, you are not exempt from these behaviors because many of us have been not playing our parts neither.  This topic I shall go further in dept at another time so please stay tuned.

Taking it back to relationships: I remember being asked on many occasions, how important “titles” are when it comes to relationships. To me personally, I believe they are very important. In a way, it’s a sense of security in ones mind. If both parties agree to not have a title but a clear understanding to what’s entailed when it comes to their as I say “Situation-ship” then they’re fine. On the other hand, without proper communication & just going with the flow, problems have a possibility of growing. If I’m playing the role as a girlfriend without a title TECHNICALLY he’s not mines. If he wanted to talk to other females or date them, can I really get mad if we didn’t decide what this is between the two of us? Communication is key!

Like I stated earlier, this topic is broad and I can go on forever. I appreciate one of my readers suggesting that I speak about this. Keep them coming! There’s so many things I can discuss & break down so let’s have some fun. Comment below your feedback on the topics I spoke about above as well as give topics you’ll like me to address. Keep in mind that I will soon bring my blogs to my up & coming podcast & radio show. With that being said, you all have to continue to follow me to keep up with all the latest!

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[NEWS] The Most Amazing Story I’ve Read In A Long Time

I was on Quora browsing and I stumbled upon one of the greatest stories that I’ve read in a very long time. With all of the bad news that we have received lately after the presidential election and ongoing with Trump; it was nice to see humanity in action. My faith was restored. Daily I see people offending others because of their race or religion, and it has been so depressing and has even angered me honestly.

Adam August met a man named Tarec and here is their story as written by August:

What is the most soul satisfying thing you have ever done in your life?

There are times when you do something for someone or for your self. You feel contented and peace within you..

I’ve seen this guy at Starbucks in Marin City several times. Every time I’d see him I’d tell myself that I would take him to lunch but always found an excuse not to. Today was different. It might have been selfish but I was lonely. I didn’t want to spend the whole day alone. I walked up to him, put my hand on his shoulder and said “ do you want to have lunch with me?”

Tarec Atkinson was born and raised in Jamaica. When he was a kid, he dreamt of being a famous futbol (soccer) player. He was recruited to play in school but never got the opportunity because of some trouble he got in as a teenager. He moved to the states 8 years ago and has spent the last 12 months living in a tent by the side of the freeway. Tarec goes days without eating, sometimes living off of the berries he picks, he spends 90% of his time alone and has no friends and no family in the states.

After hearing it had been a month since he bathed, I brought him back to my apartment so he could enjoy a hot shower. Because of all these hardships, trying to get a job is impossible. How can you fill out an application when you haven’t eaten in days? I told Tarec that I would drive around with him next week and help him fill out applications and even speak on his behalf to help him land a job so he can get back on his feet. We agreed to meet that Friday at 9:30 AM at Starbucks.

If we were going to make this happen, I knew we had to get Tarec some new clothes. We stopped at Ross so he could pick out a shirt and some slacks. I was blown away at the immediate change in his demeanor. His smile was radiant, he stood up straighter, and even walked with a swagger.

I couldn’t convince him to tuck in his shirt. I guess you win some and you lose some haha.

Next step was to hit the streets. We spent the next two days going door to door to see who was hiring. We went to Walgreens, CVS, Safeway, Home Depot, Molly Stones, and Starbucks just to name a few. I would walk in with him so he knew he wasn’t alone. It can be overwhelming to walk into a business and ask for a job. I was very proud of him. We had a few positive responses but the majority of business’s told us that applications were submitted online. Easy enough right?

Wrong.

Tarec doesn’t have a computer. So we went to the local library and began filling out applications. And let me tell you something. We take our computer literacy for granted. Watching him struggle to fill out an application put so much into perspective for me. Some people judge our homeless. We’ve all heard someone say “why don’t they just get a job?” or “they’re lazy”. I saw firsthand how the “system” is set up to fail people like Tarec. There is no way he would have been able to do any of this without my help. Just like there are many things in my life I have needed someone to help me overcome an obstacle. We all need a little help.

After week of phone interviews Tarec landed an in person interview at Safeway. I remember driving to Safeway being nervous. I looked over to him and asked how he was feeling. He looked back at me and said “I got this”. I believed him.

I dropped him off, wished him luck and waited. 20 minutes later, I see him walk out of Safeway with a big smile and a thumbs up. I let out a Rick Flair sounding “WOO!”. We had accomplished a lot together in two weeks. It was an incredible moment.

Obviously we had to celebrate with a little ice cream! 🙂 

Like we all are, Tarec is searching for a purpose in life. He yearns for happiness. He craves for a woman to love and to feel the love from a woman. He wants to create a better life for himself so he could one day have a family and stability. He is just like you and me.

My hope in sharing this story is that it will inspire others to spread LOVE. We all need help in one way or another. Sometimes all someone needs is a friend. Thank you for taking the time to read my story.

 Thank you, Adam for sharing yours and Tarec’s story. I greatly appreciate it, and I hope that our readers will as well!

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