The Quest Chronicles: V-Day Love


Happy Pre-Valentines day! Let’s have Sex, I mean HOT steamy kinky SEX! First let’s get the lingerie, chocolates, roses & champagne! It’s on & popping now!

Now that I have your attention, let’s really talk. Valentine’s Day is just like every other man made holiday that stemmed from a deranged start but it is what it is. Most down play it for many reasons; they’re either broke, lazy or don’t have a valentine because they’re single which to me is foolish. You eat MORE on Thanksgiving, open MORE gifts on Christmas, drink MORE on New Years so let’s show MORE love on Valentines Day! Yes, love should be showned all year long just like we should be giving thanks all day but these holidays are not new to us so let’s just have some fun!

For couples, you have the group “been there, done that” uummmm about them lol Then you have the ones who actually put in the effort to spice it up every year. Who doesn’t want to see that extra glow on there loved one’s face just like when it’s their birthday & it doesn’t have to be expensive neither. If working on a tight budget, there’s so many things you can do. It’s all about being creative & taking time to make it happen. Just like every other holiday, you have a year to plan.

If you’re in a relationship then your partner should already be aware of what you can do or not do financially. It’s more about the appreciation & thinking outside the box. Roses, bears & chocolates are cool but not excited about seeing every year, let’s just be real about it.

Also, the holiday was created to market their target audience which are women but guys need & deserved to be treated special as well. Let’s not be in a relationship where we’re supposed to be equal then slack in certain situations. Know what he likes besides SEX & put a smile on his face. Hell, send him chocolates to his job, buy him something he likes & when it comes to the bed room, make it more adventurous. Do like a Sex scavenger hunt or something. I can’t give too many suggestions because you know your partner, not me!

As for the singles, LOVE is universal so just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t have a Valentine. If could be a friend, co worker, the elderly lady/man down the hall or even your children. It’s all about showing love & appreciation or remix it to fit your personal life & enjoy.

Many of you have crushes so you ever thought to send something? Some guys told me that they would have loved for me to be their valentine but I’m probably someone’s Valentine already & have plans. Another comical response, “If only you lived closer” nonsense.

This goes back to insecurities & worrying about the next man. Last I checked I was single with no plans as usual because everyone assumes that I’ll be booed up.  You lost your chance assuming & you know what they say, right? Yes, fear of rejection lingers in the air but how old are you? Are we too scared to just ask “will you be my valentine?” Or even easier ” What are your plans for V-Day?” In that QUESTion alone you would have recieved your answer.

Last I checked we live in the world of technology so someone not being close is a cop out. You can video chat, send gifts through mail or if you don’t have someone’s physical address you can send gifts via internet & all you need is their email address. Within minutes you could send that someone special a pre paid groupon to a spa or a e-card to their special coffee place. It goes back to just being creative. Less assuming & more taking ACTION!

Ladies, you can ask a guy to be your valentine too you know. I’m so over this one sided mentality! That guy you been eyeing will be so thrown off & who knows what may come out of it. Even if something doesn’t, do it anyways!

Matter a fact, you can be your own & spoil yourself too. Go to the spa, run a bubble bath, pop some champagne, enjoy your favorite movie while indulging in your favorite foods. Create your own happiness.

I know a lot of this is redundant and said all the time but believe it or not many still don’t get it & need a reminder. Its your life. Live it how you want to live it but don’t forget to LIVE it! Love is Love & I LOVE YOU!

Please share some of your favorites V-Day stories from the good, the bad to the most EMBARRASSING! I’m here to read them all! 😊

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The Quest Chronicles: How Traditional Are You?


Thanksgiving! The late start of the meal, the long winded prayer & the tradition of going around the table telling everyone what you’re thankful for! Sounds familiar?

The holiday is officially over! Are you stuffed? Did you enjoy spending time with your loved ones? Did you have to work? Better question, you don’t have anymore leftovers right because at this point, that’s just nasty!

I’m very aware of where this holiday stems from but let’s focus on what it stands for in the present time. The first bonus as a student is that you don’t have to go to school. Time to give your brain a little break. Some  jobs depending on your position, you may have the day off with pay. Now who doesn’t love that?  Now, there were cases where people had to work on the holiday. If you were one of them, were you OK with it?

Me personally, I spent this year a little different than the norm. My best friend came by and even though my family cooked, we actually went out to an Indian restaurant & ate. We enjoy being different.  It wasn’t your average turkey, stuffing and cranberry sauce but it was quite delicious. With her being a vegetarian, the average options my family prepared wouldn’t work for her. Many people I know, wouldn’t have left all that good food but at the same time, I’m not your average person. As long as I’m fed, I’m satisfied.

As I got older and began to come into my own, my traditional values shifted to better fit my life. I love my family with all my heart but I wouldn’t be devastated if I didn’t spend a holiday with them. I was brought up in a home where a big feast usually prepared on Sundays was the norm so I never had to do a countdown to Thanksgiving in order to really DIG IN. Before I became a full time entrepreneur, I was the employee who didn’t mind working on the holidays. No, I wasn’t at a job that paid time and a half which sucks but I was good just getting paid in general. I was able to see my family before or after my shift so to me it was a win win.

One tradition, to which I still can’t fully understand is the hopping from house to house to get a plate. Who wants to spend the time driving? I’ll rather enjoy my family, eat & relax. In my mind, everyone makes the same main courses so what’s the point? Last week, I asked a friend who actually takes part in this activity to give me a better understanding. He stated that his family are not that GREAT of cooks so he likes to go to other people’s home for that GOOD GOOD! I guess it depends on your strengths and weaknesses. Just like in the summer time, everyone can’t make great potato salad so for thanksgiving, everyone can’t make that bomb macaroni & cheese, stuffing & sweet potato pie.

Shout out to my family full of cooks and chefs. I never had this issue. My friends enjoy coming to my parties over the years more for the food than anything. I give thanks to the FAM for sure!LOL

Let’s add a little LOVE or strong LIKE into this: Did anyone meet the family of their new significant other this year? How do you decide who goes where for the holiday? Your families or theirs? Anyone ever excited to spend time with their in laws? Holidays are a big deal so I’m sure there are some great stories, Please don’t hold back, we all want to know 😀

Time to wrap this up so my additional QUESTions for you are: How traditional are you? Do you still travel to see family for Thanksgiving? Are you terribly upset if you have to work on the holiday? Are you the type to hop house to house for plates? How long did your Thanksgiving leftovers stay in your fridge? Last but not least, comment a few things you are thankful for.

This is Ms Gotta Love Me herself, it’s T-Quest Tuesday & you’ve just been Questified! Show love by sharing & following me on social media at TQuestGLM

Email me topics to discuss & QUESTions you may have. To learn more about me or to hear about certain topics in dept please download my app “T-Quest” in your google play store & visit my website

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